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Find me some shoes, please.

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DamselInDisguise · 04/02/2011 13:46

I hate shopping (even online), so I'm hoping that some very kind people on here will be able and willing to help me out.

I have to be a bridesmaid in April. I will be wearing this dress with these opaque purple tights (this is non-negotiable, I'm told) and this coat on top. I need some shoes to go with this (under £100 preferably).

Any ideas?

Thanks.

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KikiJane · 04/02/2011 13:54

That coat and dress are beautiful! Not sure about the tights, though Hmm

Do you have to have a specific colour of shoe?

AintMissBeehiving · 04/02/2011 13:56

Dress/coat lovely. Purple tights though! I have visions of a ribena berry. Wink

These are nice. In the quartz for restrained weddingness, in the scarlet for not!

KikiJane · 04/02/2011 13:58

these?

voiceofnoreason · 04/02/2011 13:58

umm a toughie
How about

these

or

these?

and if you are being mischievous.....these?

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DamselInDisguise · 04/02/2011 14:02

I don't have to have any particular colour of shoe, but the tights seem to be non-negotiable.

My lunatic sister is the bride, and she's decided that there must be opaque tights for 'modesty' reasons and that they must be purple. Hmm I think this is partly my fault as I was wearing purple when I tried the dress on. I have a horrible feeling that there will be a (head)scarf involve too, which I will refuse to wear. I think she's a bit concerned that the dress is immodest. She did make me try on some tents floaty things, but luckily all the sales assistants and our mother agreed with me that this dress was far better.

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KikiJane · 04/02/2011 14:03

Wow, is she very religious?

KikiJane · 04/02/2011 14:06

My last link didn't work. these?

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DamselInDisguise · 04/02/2011 14:06

Allegedly, yes. Although in reality she's just mental. She's decided to become a Muslim and pretend that she knows absolutely nothing about the culture in which she was brought up, so the rest of us have to pander to her. It has far less to do with being religious than her being attention seeking and liking being able to control others and pass judgment over them.

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DamselInDisguise · 04/02/2011 14:07

Some excellent suggestions, thanks.

I should add that I'm not allowed an open toe. Apparently this is a style crime.

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voiceofnoreason · 04/02/2011 14:10

I wouldnt disagree about the style crime - especially with purple tights.

Does sound rather like a proper bridezilla thing. Pander to her - its her big day. But I warn you, sooner or later bridezillas end up trashing Tokyo and moving to monster island. Tis true.

AintMissBeehiving · 04/02/2011 14:10

I love weddings - they bring out the worst in people Grin

Opaques - ok but PURPLE?

KikiJane · 04/02/2011 14:13

Seems a bit odd that she's being so Bridezilla-ish about everything but she's allowing her bridesmaids to have different shoes. Or are you the only one?

How about black? At least you can wear them again.

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DamselInDisguise · 04/02/2011 14:15

She's obsessed with purple, hence purple opaques.

It's not really a bridezilla thing (I'm refusing to get involved enough to have to pander to bridezilla thing), it's an everything in her life thing. It is going to be the worst wedding ever, ever in the history of weddings. I kid you not. There will be no dancing, no music, no alcohol and no fun. Instead, we're getting to play board games. Board games!

To make up for this, I feel I should get some excellent, Mad men-esque shoes to go with the lovely dress that I can wear in the future (without purple tights).

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DamselInDisguise · 04/02/2011 14:16

I'm the only bridesmaid, so there's no problem with unmatched shoes.

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voiceofnoreason · 04/02/2011 14:17

How about these? eek!!
Modest and sexy.

Well ok may be not.

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DamselInDisguise · 04/02/2011 14:19

Haha, yes. The added advantage is that I would definitely break something in them.

Would it be mean of me to add that prior to becoming all modest and virginal, my sister was pretty much the opposite of everything she pretends to be now? At 15 she was sleeping around with other people's boyfriends.

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JellyBelly10 · 04/02/2011 14:29

www.mulberry.com/#/storefront/c5854/5491/category/
Ok so these are over a thousand pounds but are beautiful!!!! Maybe your sister will pay for them to make up for the fact there's no alcohol at her reception! You need good shoes if you can't have Wine

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DamselInDisguise · 04/02/2011 14:31

However, I'm not sure they'll match my ribena berry look!

I think its particularly cruel to deny us Wine and then force us to play board games. I have a raucous toddler though, who doesn't hold with such things and (I'm sure) will spread all the pieces far and wide. Not that I can imagine that anyone will want to play board games anyway.

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JellyBelly10 · 04/02/2011 14:39

OK here's a more sensible suggestion, and will definitely add to the overall Ribena look
[http://www.lkbennett.com/shoes/courts/CCLOLA513SUEDE]
and only just over budget.
My sister didn't have alcohol at her wedding reception either, just a bottle of white Schloer and a bottle of red Schloer on each table Shock I thought she was joking before the actual day! I was so bored that at one point I nipped out of the reception to a local shop as realised I'd forgotten to buy Lottery tickets! Grin

JellyBelly10 · 04/02/2011 14:42

Not sure why my link didn't work...I'll try again and if not I'll give up...
[http://www.lkbennett.com/shoes/courts/CCLOLA513SUEDE]

JellyBelly10 · 04/02/2011 14:42

Oh well, I give up!

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DamselInDisguise · 04/02/2011 14:47

We're not even going to be allowed to buy our own! I pan to make many excuses to take the kids outside to play, etc.

I also get to endure a 'hen night' the night before in the local scout hall playing games, ceildh dancing (without men or alcohol) and performing Algerian 'ceremonies'. Note: we're not Algerian; we're a family of lapsed Glaswegian catholics. I've told her that I shall be late, as we live a good 2.5 hours away and DH doesn't finish work until 5. And, of course, we have to feed the kids before we set off. I'm not rushing up for what sounds like a girls' school disco!

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