Clothes and the weight I am

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This is a sort of hybrid question ? not entirely s& b. I?m 5?3? and 54. This year I?ve gone from 12 stone 8 to 9 stone 6. When I was a teenager I was fat at 7st 10lb, in my early thirties I was fat at 8st 10lb. I want to lose another few pounds but at present I don?t have any flabby bits, am size 10 and happy to wear a tight belt to show off my weight and look ( not just according to me) fine in my new body con dresses x 3. My mother keeps telling me not to lose any more weight as it will show in my face ( she is right that my face shouldn?t get any thinner) But how can anyone of 5?3? look ok at my weight? I?ve looked back through old threads and people on here want to be between 8 stone and 8 stone 10 on the whole. The last time I was 8 stone 2, about 5 years ago I was definitely far too thin (DH said I was uncomfortable company in bed!). I?m not tiny build, quit broad shouldered and have a large rib cage. Does anyone else feel OK at my sort of height and weight? Is it just because of my age and the having to choose face or figure after 40? p.s. I do do lots of exercise.

I don't believe any adult could be 'fat' at 7 stone 10 - that's not possible.

Sorry but I am 5ft 3 and think I looked great at 9st 6! I was a size 12 which is slightly curvy but nice and toned - maybe it helped that I exercised a lot. Either way it is a healthy weight. No way were you fat at under 9st. You sound more like you have issues with your self esteem that you need to deal with tbh.

I agree, fat at 7stone 10 and 5'3" - no way. I was 8 stone at 5'2" and I felt thin.

I am 9 stone now and five 2". I am not magazine slim but I feel good in my clothes. I can run four miles three times a week and I feel good about that.

I think you need to like your body more, not just its shape right now, but have you had children, got pregnant? delivered babies? breastfed them? run around after them?
Your body needs to be strong and healthy a lot more than it needs to be thin.

Have you calculated your BMI?? I'm sure it would come out that your weight was in the healthy range.

I agree with PPs, fat at 7stone 10 and 5'3" - no way. I was 8 stone at 5'2" and I felt thin.

I am 9 stone now and five 2". I am not magazine slim but I feel good in my clothes.

I think you need to like your body more, not just its shape right now, but have you achieved any physical accomplishments? did you have children?

Your body needs to be strong and healthy a lot more than it needs to be magazine thin.

Have you calculated your BMI?? I'm sure it would come out that your weight was in the healthy range.

by physical accomplishments I don't just mean giving birth, breastfeeding etc, I mean mini marathons, jogging etc..

I think it can make you like your body more even if your shape is only a bit different.

I think you probably feel bigger than you are because of your broadish build. Size 10 and 60 odd kilos for your height sounds perfect to me. Sounds like if you lost any more you would be too thin.

Between 8 stone and 8'10 for me would be too thin - I am 5'6. In fact I was below 8 at one point and looked ill.

ooops, Thought I was previewing my first post. NOT sure what happened there.

I'm just puzzled - It was over 40 years ago I fewlt fat at 7st 10 lb and right at 7 st 7 - there is no way on this earth I would want to be that thin now, it was just the way I was when I was a teenager. I'm bemused that I'm feeling so good about 9 stone 6, that is all - perhaps the clothes I'm fitting into - 10's are bigger now than they were a few years ago. I don't really want to be size 8, that has connotations of being too thinj for me. Don't really believe that I've now got more muscle through exercise, although might just be the case with my legs. I have sort of decided to go to 9 st 2 - 4 just to be comfortable in the waist band of my Boden velvet trousers and leave it at that.

Hmm, I'm 7st 4 and 5'2 and not that thin.

I'd be fine to gain a few pounds and could do with two or three but not much more.
I looked fat at 8st 6.

I have a really round face though and every oz shows in it which makes me look bigger than I am.

It depends how you carry the weight really, and I don't carry it at all well.

Clothes are definitely bigger. I'm only 32 but remember wearing some 10s in my late teens. They'd fall of me now and though I'm pretty much the same size, I was much firmer and had a better figger then.

Figger?
Well that is an interesting spelling!

I wonder if it has something to do with having children or age? Before I had DD1 I dieted from 11 stone 2 to 9 stone 2 (age 26). I'm 5ft 5". That left me at a size 10/12 - curvy. I felt good at that weight. I went up to 10 stone 7 after DD1, but slimmed back down to 9 stone 7 (age 32). At that point, I fitted back in to my old clothes, and looked more or less the same as before so I stopped dieting. After DD2 I went up to 11 stone. I've just finished dieting again as I fit back into my old clothes, but this time I'm 9 stone 11 (age 34). Again, I'm more or less exactly the same shape as before, although my tummy is a bit more flabbier. So, to conclude, over the course of two pregnancies/eight years I weigh 9 pounds more, but am more or less exactly the same shape, and fit into the same clothes. I'd come to the conclusion that either age or pregnancies accounted for this. Weird?

Not weird. I am considerably heavier (1 1/2 stone) than before my pregnancy but fit into pretty much the same clothes and have almost exactly the same measurements. mind you, I am 5'8'' and a big build.

It's horses for courses as far as what weight is right for a certain height as we don't all carry our extra lbs in the same places.

I'm 5'4" and today I'm 9st3lbs. I'm happier when I'm just under 9st though. I carry my extra weight on my hips, tops of thighs and boobs so look quite curvy when I'm nearing the 9st 7lbs mark.

I liked the scales when I was 8st 7lbs (A few years ago) but my face was too thin. I tend to lose weight quickly from my face and neck which is aging.

I wish I had gravity defying fat. I'd love the jelly wobbles on my hips to plonk themselves on my cheeks.

I'd put my cheeks on my wrists!
How weird is that?

I have tiny, and I mean tiny wrists. They make me look really frail they are so small, yet I have chubby cheeks.

don't worry about what the scales say, it's totally misleading anyway.

I've been much smaller than I am now (in dress size) and weighed lots more than I do now - I did look super muscly and a bit manwife but that's another story.

You carry your weight differently as you get older and your skeletal structure usually changes a little during pregnancy and is less likely to revert to its original form the more pregnancies you have.

step away from the scales, that way only leads to obsession! I agree with Valium that the best thing to do is have a good look at your bod, work out what you like, don't like, what you can change and what you can't. Then it's just a question of making the very best of what you get - being fit, strong and in control of your body.

(steps off soapbox)

i have lost 5 stone and a lot of people are saying i am now too thin which is really annoying me .I am not but my face and neck are thin neck has aged quite badly to be honest but rather have scraggy neck than be the weight i was IYSWIM

Vintage 4 - it is only my mother that is say8ing this! she expects me to look young and lovely but forgets I am 54 and am bound to be a very little bit wrinkly now. I feel my body is better than it has been for years, as the exercise, especially running, has firmed up my middle. I think my face is OK but probably did look a little bit better when I was about 10 stone. I am geting a scraggy neck, but that is better than 3 chins!