Want to tell someone their coat is unflattering

[Silkstalkings]

There's a lady I see on the schoolrun who has the most hideous unflattering jacket. It's a bubblegum pink wool one with 3 layers of flounce like a rara skirt. Main prob is the flounces start under the armpit so makes her look huge (and the pink is not her shade either). Everytime I see her in it I want to tell her.

I'm assuming it would be rude to tell her this so thought I'd share it here.

What items have you seen lately that have sent you into Trinny & Susannah mode?

And how would you feel if someone said that about your clothes?

Is objective constructive criticism allowed irl?

Try it ,see what she says,report back

Just slip a note into the pocket:

"Your coat's shit"

"And nobody likes you"

You wouldn't really say something, would you? What if that coat is her pride and joy and she feels like a princess in it? She'd be crushed! :(

Better to unload here.

Having said that, I have recently wanted to go up to a woman and say "please, PLEASE go to a real hair salon and get your hair fixed, the orange bleached look from spray-on Sun-In went out decades ago".

Or the young girl in skinny jeans who should NOT have been in skinny jeans, which were too long and so she tucked them under her feet into her weirdo strappy gladiator sandals. OMG. I really wanted to tell her that if she were my little sister or my daughter I'd lock her in the house.

There is a woman on the school run whot often wears a pair of flamingo print jeans. Surprisingly, it's the cut of them I find more distressing.

I know what my reply would be

What would you say, US? :o

No I wouldn't say it because I am a chicken.

But I like to think I would be grateful if someone told me something made me look less atrractive in it. I have often grieved for clothes in shops that I loved and then tried on to find they make me look like an uncooked sausage. Always take a friend shopping!

LOL at TethHearseEnd

is this a joke?

if you were her blunt friend that would be fine

if she's just a school run mum you risk 1. sounding like a biaatch, 2. upsetting her

and what if it's 3 years old and she can't afford a new one. and she'll have to carry on wearimg it knowing everyone thinks its horrid

oh no, keep schtum

You know what, if someone criticised my clothes out of the blue, I would (even if they were right) most likely go on the defensive and find something nasty to say about theirs.
And you know what, almost everyone has something they wear that could be criticised.
People's taste is different and someone else might easily think your favourite dress makes you look like mutton dressed as lamb/is frumpy/your favourite jeans make your arse look big etc etc etc.
So tell her at your peril

That's why I'm here telling you lot instead! S'wot Mumsnet is for, no?

well you did ask 'Is objective constructive criticism allowed irl?' so people are answering no!

TethHearseEnd..that's hilarious. I'm glad I don't live in your area though

if we all started doing that it would be a slippery slope and you would probably hear some truths about your own style you didn`t know or want to hear

Can you imagine a stranger telling you that your coat made you look like a hippo

anyway OP, the stuff you want to tell her is not constructive criticism, it's just criticism, isn't it?!

Trinny and Susannah only get away with being so mean because they are also constructive - 'you've got a great figure but you're hiding it in that flouncy coat, you would look lovely in a much simpler one.'

I ws wearing a new jacket when an old friend came up to me and thought I was pregnant. When I said I wasn't she said "Oh, it must be that jacket". It kind of flaired out under the boobs. I haven't worn it since.

Hmmm. You know, it could be worse; "Your coat is so flattering, but it needs a different owner."

I have a bad feeling my coat feels like the above. It's very lovely, but I'm a bit squeezed into it. I sometimes feel I should have left it in the shop so, rather than depriving it of the owner/life it really deserved.

I regularly want to tell people in the street to get better fitting jeans. There really is no excuse for some of the horrors you see.