What do you wear to a funeral these days?

[SagacityNell]

I haven't been to many. The last one iwent to i was in maternity clothes. I have to shop for it but not really in the mood for trawling lots of places. Also will need to be something i will wear again.

help!

Am thinking of getting some smart black trousers - they always come in handy don't they?
but otehr than that i don't know.

AM a 6/8 top but like things a bit loose fitting, don't like having the tops of my arms out really, nor would it be appropriate at this funeral tbh. May also need a jacket/coat as will be on public transport to and fro and hardly think my green parka will be right!

I wore dark grey trousers, a white shirt and a navy cardigan to the last funeral I went to. I don't own any black clothes. Not many people were all in black in fact, most were in sombre colours.

have you checked if there's any special requests about what to wear? the last one i went to stipulated no black as they wanted to celebrate the persons life - which i thought was a lovely idea

I don't have any smart clothes at all so have to shop any way. He was a very traditional man so he will want people in black i think. And his wife is a fuss for doing thing Just So.

sorry x posted but i think i answered in post anyway.

I wore black trousers, black shirt and black ballet flats to my brother's funeral. All stuff that I owned already, so definitely re-wearable.

Sombre colours, really, and smart like you've made an effort. I went to one recently in nice black trousers, a slightly patterned blouse in black, taupe and cream, and a smart black cardigan. It was fine, even though it was quite a "smart" funeral with the family in LBDs and hats. It was rather gorgeous seeing them all dressed up to honour their father.

A couple of people came to my parents' funerals in golf sweaters. I was really pissed off at the time (although I care a little less now).

Last funeral I went to was in January, in the middle of the country-wide shutdown caused by the snow. I turned up in trousers, wellies and a hiking coat, with my smart shoes and jacket in a rucksack. I changed in the receiving room at the crem. Left my rucksack and heavy weather gear under a chair in that room.

You're pg - you don't have to buy a special maternity outfit. I'm sure the mourners will be pleased to see you even in a floral print maternity frock with a plain cardie over. It's attending the funeral that honours the deceased, not the colour of the clothes.

thanks all. just looking online now.

I am not pg now PC. I was post natal at he last funeral i went to.

sorry. Can't get my words out today.

To make things worse, it will be at a church i used to go to but left after 'an incident' and i haven't been able to go back since. I may also have to sing.

the last one I (almost) went to (didn't make it) was 'black with a splash of colour'.

I wasn't sure what it meant, but wore dark grey and black anyway. I hate wearing black.

Hope you find something x

Sagacity, I am sorry. It sounds like a really difficult thing for you to have to do.

I went to funeral recently and wore this as figured it was sombre but I'd wear it again afterwards.

Sorry, I misunderstood.

Yes, I think thatinyour situation something fairly formal would be more appropriate.

Perhaps an outfit made up of separates that you would not normally wear together because the overall effect would be too sombre, but each individual item would be wearable with other things. Capsule wardrobe style.

Or a LBD with more opaque black tights than you would wear for an evening do, plus a shrug or jacket.

Black is always useful. Purple and grey are also suitable and wearable colours.

The parka doesn't matter because you will take it off indoors. Or will you be at the graveside?

the service is in a church but it has neither a graveyard nor a crematorium so as yet nothing has been confirmed about anything other than the service part. (he was a local preacher so part of it was bound to be at "his" church)

I would say just get a pair of black trousers (that you will wear again) and any kind of smartish top. Its a very 'english' thing this wearing black and being very smart. In Irish families/culture (like mine), its just expected that people turn up looking clean and smartish. Mind you, Irish people go to ALOT of funerals as we don't wait to be invited, its just expected that you turn up if you knew the person!

My mums funeral was in the middle of January and I bought a pair of grey trousers, and black jumper, a cream coat and black boots. I felt smart but not too 'funerally'.

Hope it all goes ok.