Please tell me if I'm over reacting...
I am 20 weeks pregnant and my partner smokes weed... He smoked when I met him and when we got together I made it very clear that I didn't want another relationship with someone that was into that, I used to smoke it and was in a toxic relationship with a dealer so it brings up a lot of emotional and awful memories for me, just the smell of it takes me right back to that relationship and I HATE it with a passion! Anyway, at the start, he only ever smoked when he wasn't with me and that was fine... He gradually spent more and more time at my house and has now moved in, so the weed smoking became more often... He now smokes every night and in the morning my bedroom STINKS of weed! He's a chef so works 12-10pm most days, he will sleep in until the last minute so I don't really see him in the morning, and by the time he gets home I'm usually about to go to bed because it's exhausting growing a human, I also have a 4.5 year old on the autistic spectrum, then he will stay up late and smoke weed and in the morning the cycle starts again!
I'm fully aware of the fact that hormones are playing a big part in the pure anger I'm feeling right now but I don't want to be in a relationship with what feels like a 17 year old stoner, we're both 28 and are about to have 2 children between us, I want him to bloody act like it! He also told me before I fell pregnant that he would stop smoking cigarettes with me and has made zero effort to do that either... This is making it very difficult for me to quit (I only have a couple in the eve after my daughter is in bed) and I want both of us to be stopped by the time the baby comes!
I have tried talking to him about these issues but it always falls on deaf ears! I don't know what to do!