How to be supportive?

[GingerPuddin]

DH is stopping smoking and is driving me batshit. He's smoked since he was 16 (he's late 30s now) and has tried to quit lots of times. I know it's very difficult but he's talking his stress out on me. He picks at everything I do. Like tonight apparently while eating dinner my fork was scraping against my plate. Plus since he's quit he spends all evening on the computer not really wanting to interact. He has no patience. I've tried to be supportive and given him space but I'm sick of havjng to tiptoe around him. Is there anything I can do to help? Will this just pass eventually?

Poor you

he's talking his stress out on me
This is not on. Stopping smoking can be quite hellish but it's up to him to minimise the impact on those around him. If he can't cope with normal eating noises, for eg., then he needs to eat alone for a while.

Plus since he's quit he spends all evening on the computer not really wanting to interact.
TBH I'd leave him to it for a week or so. He probably can't think about much else except fags at the moment so anything that takes his mind off it is good. Let him take whatever space he needs, it's better than getting irritable with you.

It will get better, the first couple of weeks are the worst. When did he stop?

My OH quit smoking a few years ago and become so intolerable and easy irritable. Tried ignoring it and confronting him when he snapped. TBH once he managed to get through the first few weeks I had an honest conversation that I knew he was snapping because of the cravings but he needed to be aware - I picked a time when he was less irritable to have this chat!
Maybe wait a while then try to have a calm chat about how its affecting you?
Good Luck! Will be fine in the end and much better for his health.