Urgent Advice Needed

[jojo38]

Hi all

All hell broke loose here last night. I came home to find that Dh's ex had a right go at Dh and my son after he picked up SS for a kick about for the evening. No reason was given. She just flipped, shouting at my son and Dh. Thankfully Dh was not having it and demanded an explaination. Turns out that she is jealous because we had some work done on our house. I am afraid she is an ex from hell and believes that everything that dh has belongs to her... as long as it has everything to do with money. SS is suffering greatly because of the absoulte tip they live in. SS is allowed to do anything!! Literally!! When ss is here we have a terrible time because he isnt' allowed to get away with things he shouldn't.
That aside, I need some help in how to deal with this situation for dh's sake and that of my son.

Ex has told Dh that he won't be seeing his son either. He has booked a long weekend away with him (and my eldest son) next weekend. She won't let him go now.

It is a terrible situation and I have no idea how to stop her... well, I do, but I think I will be found out!!

Hugs

Sorry to hear you are having a bad time at the minute. Think it is terrible that BM feels that she can let loose on your kids. That is totally out of order. Do you think that maybe giving her a few days to calm down would help and if your dh contacted her in a few days as if nothing happened the whole thing might blow over? That is what my dp normally does and quite often x will have had a bad day or something (but then she is a lovely and very reasonable person most of the time so that might make a difference)

don't have any experience of this - but I thought if things get awkward you can get a legal settlement about access rights ?

How old is SS ?

We had a similar problem and it resulted in us not seeing the children for 5 years!! Ex wife was a total bitch and it caused so many problems for both us and the children that it turned out to be the best thing - although it was hard missing out on those years with them.

We made contact again 18 months ago and Ex has grown up a lot, the children are older and we all get on brilliantly. It was hell at the time but it's all worked out great.

I hope you can sort things out too, maybe give the ex a bit of time to cool down - it's awful when they use the children to get back at their Ex DH's isn't it?

HI all

Sorry, been off line - pc probs. I have started another thread linking this one... sort of. Same thing anyway.

SS is nearly 11, yet acts like an 8yo at many times. Such a shame. There is no discipline either. She allows him to get away with everything!! It makes it hard when (if) he comes to our house... I am the ogre coz I don't let him get away with the "naughty" things... etc.

BM is a total nutcase. There will be no seeing sense with her. (Pls see my other thread.. BM gone loopy again.. thanks.)

Thanks again for your support. We wait and see what the outcome is.. will keep you informed.. if pc doesn't play up again.