Anyone only stuck to one DC due to Step kids?

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Im feeling bitter tonight and am probably venting my anger in the wrong direction but one of the reasons I think we only had one dc is due to my hubby's extended family.

Someone asked me why we only had one? I thought and its like well when our DS came along it was wonderful but felt like we were treading on egg shells with sd so as not to leave out. couple of years later other dsd came on the scene(Not previously involved with before due to ex no allowing)...then it was concentrating on involving, getting to know and bending over backwards for the dsc.

Now Im at an age and dh is that we are to old our ds is 5 years.

It suddenly hit me that my/our plans were to have 2 dc quickly but it never happened and although we were too busy enjoying our ds Im also convinced both of us were also too busy worrying about the dsc.

Novelty has worn off now with our ds and they didnt even send him a birthday card last week!

no one?

I'm struggling with this myself. I have one daughter and DP has two sons. They all live with us the majority of the time. I never wanted a big family so having more than 3 DC would be a struggle but I do feel very sad about not having more than 1 DC myself and worry about whether my DD's step siblings will be there in the same way biological siblings would when they grow up.

Have you completely ruled out the possibility of another one?

How does you DP feel about this?

well age is an issue with us both now...I think Im just feeling sad that we didnt have 2 and after lots of looking back Im 90% sure it was due to dsc.

They are at an age when they want to go out and spend w-ends with their friends so we are not a priority - they def dont seem to bother that much with our ds now but I suppose all teenagers do this at some point with step siblings or biological ones.

I just wished we had just got on with it and not trod on eggshells for the last few years

You only have one child, your DH does not; his daughter is his child too not his 'extended family'. People shouldn't really be asking you why you have one child anyway but if they do just say my husband has two children (or whatever number) but his daughter lives with her mother, my husband's first wife.

I have 3 children - 2 are mine, 1 is my DP's. Consequently we are not having anymore
I would love to have a child with DP but it would mean new house, bigger cars, cant afford to take 3 anyway....and we nurture our relationship on the odd weekend when we have no children.

I have no doubt that DSD will be there for my 2 DCs when older - our / their relationship gets stronger each year and now we are getting married next month, she really has settled down with us. I think if we had a child, she may feel replaced and I would hate her to think that.