Holidays

[hksi]

Should I be upset that my DH wants us to have some holidays with only our 2 children and not my children from a previous relationship????

yes. well, maybe not, depends unless he's got a very good reason, like there is a massive age gap and he wants to do something that's age appropriate for the younger ones but not the older ones (like EuroDisney - fine for little ones, a bit boring for teenagers), or if he wants to do something with the younger ones while the older ones are away with their father.

Do your children from your previous relationship live with you?

Sorry, that's not a very clear answer.

Thanks for your reply. The children are 10, 8, 3 and 1. All live with us except when older ones at dad's every other weekend. He likes to have a holiday when they are on hols with their dad but this makes me feel guilty. This year we've had 2 hols all together and now he wants one in summer just 4 of us and one in Oct all of us. Just wanted another opinion as don't trust my own!!!!

To be fair, if the older children are having a nice holiday with their Dad, then I don't see a problem with the 4 of you having an additional holiday, although I'm sure it would be just as nice with all the children with you. It's not as if you are having an adult holiday with no children, which I could understand.

If, however, your older children are just staying at Dad's house and not doing much for a week and you're taking your younger kids to somewhere exciting and fun, I do think that's a little unfair on the older kids.

My two step kids go on holiday with their mum. As his ex wife doesn't work we pay for the kids holiday. Their father goes on holiday with me and our child. We have in the past taken step kids on holiday with us, which meant they had 2 holidays and our child had only one (due to money and annual leave restrictions).

I only have 25 days holiday a year and a lot of it is used up on child illness, sports days etc, so in the 7 days a year we go away I want to be with my husband and our child. I wouldn't want my step kids there as it would change the dynamic and be less relaxing.

Thank you all so much for your replies. You have all given valid reasons as to why it is o.k The older ones are having a holiday with their dad and also my parents so getting lots of holidays. It's also true that it's much more relaxing with just the 2 little ones esp as the youngest still has a daytime sleep. We're going to book both holidays tonight and I feel so much better having 'talked' to you. Thanks again.