sorry, a bit of a rant really
i know there are far worse step matter horror stories around than mine but..
does anyone else find their teenage steps come for visits - upset the whole family, and then just b*gger off to leave the step mums to pick up the debris?
I understand that they are getting older and want more freedom to see their friends at the weekends, I know i was hardly at home on the weekends when i was a teenager. They are both teenagers, they both 50% of the time go and do their own thing for most of the weekend visit, but whilst one of them is an absolute dream and i would be proud to have my little ones turning out like him, the other one seems to make it a sport to cause as much turmoil as he can with the entire household!
this weekend's example, he was out most of saturday, got home to us and was begged by my two youngsters to play, made a load of excuses, was too tired, had a headache, had to do homework (aka update facebook) and promised to give them his time on sunday and made a made a big deal about all the fun things they could do if they would just leave him alone today.
sunday came, he stayed in bed until 11am (again i undertsand , yes he's a teenager) as usual i kept the little ones away from his room unil he was ready to get up, he finally surfaced and spent the next two hours on the laptop doing his own stuff. My LOs gave up waiting and went to play (frankly i admired their patience), got into a nice game just the two of them, then he came calling them, 'where did you get to, i've got a game set up for you' so they went running to him.... less than 5 minutes later he asks his Dad can he go into town, got agreement and said see you later then. right that very minute he was off out the door!!
so i stopped him, hang on a tick what are the LO's doing? - oh they're on the laptop playing a game - i said no you can't leave them playing on their own (at 5 and 3) so he goes back takes the laptop away and does a runner!! - leaving my LOs distraught and tearful of course...
then he strolls back later in with less than an hour to go 'til he goes home to mum and STILL won't give them any of his time...
i know reading this back it probably seems like nothing, and i know it could be a whole lot worse - but it angers me so much that he upsets them, and like faithful puppies they are still desperate to see him and have his attention ....
just a rant really, anyone else get this??!!