stapfathers, how do you get on with your teen sdd

[liahgen66]

I met dh when dd was nearly 7, she is now 15 and they can't stand each other. Completely rub each other up the wrong way and it's driving me demented.

Just wondered how others manage.

Wives, feel free to reply on behalf of your dp/h as to relationship with your dd.

ok, noone so anyone can answer now then.

I also met DH when DD was 7 - they got on brilliantly from the first, but when she became a teenager things got very difficult. Some appalling behaviour from DD, I have to admit, plus some issues of DH's combined to make life a misery for all of us - not helped by the very prem arrival of DS, so my attention totally taken away from her when she needed me.

DH saw things couldn't go on and got some counselling through work - total godsend. Gave him strategies to use, made him realise how negative he was being when he was concerned about her, helped him to adjust to teenage drama (he hates confrontation) and be more posititve with her. Now they are much better. They still row, but there isn't that terrible tension.

Don't forget that one is an adult and the other isn't.

thank you for responding, how old is your dd now?

I also met DP when DD1 was 7. She is now nearly 14.

They have their moments but no more than I think would happen if I was still with her Dad.

DD2 on the other hand is different matter. She was 3 when I met DP and is nearly 10. There are daily arguments and DP has said on many occasions he doesn't know how to deal with her - I am at a loss most of the time too so it isn't his fault! God help us if she becomes worse when she is a teenager! She says she hates him, threatened to call Social Services as when he was shouting at ther the other day he had a wooden spoon in his hand and she said she felt threatened! I think we have a rocky road ahead!

DD is now a very grown-up 15. I think it also helps that she still sees her Dad regularly (she has more rows with him than she does DH!).