Do you think this is appropriate?

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DSS1 (nearly 15) and DSS2 (12), both clearly pubertal/adolescent, are going ski-ing with their mother, their mother's boyfriend and their mother's boyfriend's daughter next week. The proposal is that the BF's DD, who is 10, will share a hotel room with the DSSs.

The DSSs are horrified (they don't want to share their personal space). But DP and I are in fact horrified also - if that were our DD, we would not be happy about her being forced to share a room with two adolescent boys (even ones as charming and lovely as the DSSs).

Are we being unreasonable?

no you are not being unreasonable.

Tis slightly inappropriate to mix adolescents of one sex with children of another sex especially when they are not related.

I think there is guidance somewhere on what is considered healthy with regard to kids sharing rooms. Can your DP have a word with the dss's mum?

Thanks.

I think that DSS2 is going to have a chat to his mother about it - DSS2 is a very reasonable child who complains about very little, so when he starts putting his foot down about things he gets listened to! He has a good sense of humour and will probably manage to get his point across better than DSS1 would.