Hi all.... it's been a while but I just thought I'd get this off my chest.
Just discovered in the last couple of days (while ss has been staying with a relative) that ss accessed our internet account details late one night, and changed our internet useage limit quite significantly - which has resulted in us being billed for an extra $100 per month. (It was done back in April but we only recently found out). He apparently did this because he wanted to get a faster 'download speed'... he didn't ask permission to do it so of course didn't mention it to anyone. If it was up to me he'd be paying the b**y bill himself!! He also took one of my CD's without asking me, and now I'm wondering if I'll ever get it back.
DH was understandably angry about the internet issue and has banned ss from using the internet for a while, but now ss is 'sulking' and thinks he's been badly done by. On the weekend he also wanted to take our television to a friend's place so they could have a 'playstation party' or something, and he's also been in a pretty bad mood because dh wouldn't let him take it. Neither of us felt comfortable with him taking some expensive property to someone's place that we don't even know. Anyway.. it was his birthday a few days ago, so I gave him a shirt that I had bought him (despite the sneaking around that he's been doing lately!). It's a really nice top and I've seen him wearing similar things, so thought he would be happy with it since he always maintains that he doesn't have enough clothes. I gave it to him and he just looked at it and said "I'm into shirts with collars now, so I probably wouldn't wear that." I've never seen him wear a shirt with a collar before (just wears T-shirt type things), so I said "Oh - ok, do you want me to return it then?" And he said "Yeah, you may as well." So I just put it back in the bag and I'm going to return it this week. No 'thank you' or anything from him at all. Now this may be 'normal' for teenagers or it may not be, but all I know is that it is enough to drive you to distraction. I am really starting to realise how self-absorbed they can be, and what little regard they have for anyone else. I'm sure all teenagers aren’t like this but it seems to be the norm. I try REALLY hard for a while, and then I just find myself thinking "bugger it".
Sigh... that's it - thank you for listening. I'm just looking for that light at the end of the tunnel........................