AIBU to think being a good, caring step parent..

[ElenorRigby]

is the most thankless task ever?

Nope, I feel your pain...

Yes, you are probably right.

But, IMHO, it's having to deal with the ex partner which is the shitty bit. The kids are not much of a problem at all!

yip - i agree with all 3 you

I hope not, my dp is an amazing step parent and I don't think he finds it thankless at all.

DS1 loves DH to bits ( he's now 22) but it wasn't always so. It took a bit of adjusting for both of them but now they're very close.

I agree with harimosmummy - its the ex partner thats the problem, not the kids!!

I agree with harimosmummy - its the ex partner thats the problem, not the kids!!

I'm going to sound rather thick here....what does AIBU mean???

For my ten-penneth, at the moment I agree that its the ex's that cause the problems NOT the children!

God give me strength!

Am I being unreasonable.

Sorry all I started this thread after a really bad week, with regard to family occasions involving the girls. (DSD and DD)
Yep being a good step parent is crap and thankless but hey as "saints" we have to rise above it! halo

I agree - its definitely the ex that causes the problems.

I just don't understand why she seems to have a problem with everything DH does, goes out of her way to be awkward and dangles her daughter in front of my DH like a carrot.

Shes already cut his access to 1 day and the only reason we can think of is shes jealous of how well I get on with DSD.

If shes such a good Mum then she should he happy its all working out and I'm not some crazy evil witch of a step mum to her daughter.

Its getting worse, I'm dreading meeting her to be honest, as I know it will happen at some point.

I thought of inviting her round for coffee and a chat, but not sure it will change things for the better, as she seems to be a bit obsessed at the moment.

I really felt for her in the beginning as I know it can't be easy for her, but she's being very immature and maybe I should just let her get on with it?