STEP PARENTS REUNITED

[Guardianangel]

Whoa! there seems to be a few fiesty Mums out there who dont have a lot of time for us Step Mums. Its a shame because it spoils it for their children. If you are made to feel unimportant in their lives it kind of discourages you to try dont you think. After all you are only met with criticism!

(oh, and I agree with HappyMumof2 too)

tamum, dont get on the band wagon love, give us some views of being a step parent and how lovely or horrible it was for you.

Snort at the idea of lovely and stepmum being in the same sentence where you are concerned!

It was a mixture, but I don't really feel like engaging in conversation with anyone who accuses me of getting on a bandwagon.

And your agenda on Mumsnet is to divide camps into "step-parents" and "lone parents". And that just won't work, a) because we're all much cleverer than you and b) many, many women have done both in their time and c) many women may be one or the other, but they have dear friends and relatives in the opposite camp, so they know life isn't black and white battlegrounds.

Multi-tasking you see. Multi-thinking as well.

Oh i can see where loop the loop was coming from now about real step parents not wanting to join the discussion.(other thread)she has obviously met this type of aggression before. Shame that it proves my rambling right. X family deliriously raged with second families. You know not one of you have given evidence of support to step parents. Mmmmmmm speaks volumes {wink]

My god, your going to make me stop access from any woman who will have contact with my children if they are at risk from being exposed to such a lunatic

Message withdrawn

Still find this discussion interesting, because I am in the situation that GA is advocating. Not that I would advocate it for other couples. It just so happens to be pragmatically, the best solution for my ex and me. So it is fascinating to see the strong reactions to GA's postings.

I wish people (including GA!) could bring themselves to acknowledge that "one size does not fit all" and there is room for everybody's opinion in this matter.

Nn I have lost count of the times I've stressed that I'm aware there's always another side to the story.

GA otoh, has never acknowledged that.

And the strong reaction to GA's postings is because of his standpoint of mysogyny and the fact that he's a troll, not just to his arguments.

GA - why are you determind to upset people? This site is for support and helpful tips and advice. You obviously have a right to your opinion but what is the point of expressing it in such a unconstructive way? I am a step-parent myself and this site has been my saviour at times, although if I met up with some of your views when I first posted I would have probably been completely crushed and sent off to the loony bin!! Don't you think you ought to show more consideration for others?

OMG I am totally in shock. I do not visit this site for a couple of weeks and it has gone totally downhill all of a sudden!!!!!!! How disappointing, I actually thought this website was a real help until you get the likes of GA sprouting utter rubbish! In my honest opinion GA doesnt sound like a f4j guy, more like one of the bitter BMs that so many of us have to deal with!

This site is to help stepmums who are trying to do right by their partners and stepchildren and try to deal with the problems that come from a 2nd relationship. If you have nothing constructive to say or helpful, kind advice as this site is so well known for giving, then please go to another website.

Rant over, thank you!

I'm a stepmother to a lovely girl (even though I have faced problems with my stepchild's mother) and find your opinions and attitudes bizarre and repellent GA. They are also way out of step with the feelings of all the other step-parents I have encountered on this board.

I totally agree Aloha, I cant believe that everyone that I have chatted to on here before has similar opinions, emotions, experiences and then GA comes along with her insulting opinions and comments!