hello
I am new to this site, and have resorted to the internet for any help I can find as I can't find any anywhere else. I am a relitivly new step mother with 2 children from my previous relationship, and a new one with my new husband, I am stepmother to an 8 year old boy, to begin with our relationship was a little rocky but nothing that I was not expecting this is not an easy time for any one, I have tried my hardest to form a bond with him with out being too pushy but he has decided that there will be no peace in the house.
It all came to a head this morning at 3.30am when I heard noise down stairs and came down to find him stealing food from the kitchen again, upon questioning my husband and I have discovered that he was doing this long before I arrived, but he has upped his efforts recently in a bid to cause arguments between my self and my husband, we have been told that he should be enough for his father that no other company should be needed.
In addition to all the stealing and lieing that we have had from him we have also discovered that he is hitting my 2 children, I am really stuck here as I removed us all from an abusive situation with thier birth father, my daughter suffering the most at his hands, but again seems to be bearing the brunt of it agian.
I know that there is usually some adjustment time, and I feel that I have been very patient as he has had a year to settle in to life as it is now, even if not fully at least going some way towards it, and yet it feels like we are moving further and further away from any thing like a family.
All in all our house is a happy one, unfortunatly my stepson will not let it be while he is in it, unless in his own word I buy him things.
I don't think I could include everything that has been happening aside from the fact that I would not be able to see through the tears that it causes thinking about it all it would take me an age to write, we are so stuck we don't know which way to turn.