The meals thing was just a for-instance, not specifically meals, although my kids do say thank you for that, come to think of it when DP cooks for me I say thank you and visa versa, I guess we are just polite.
The point I was trying to make was Step mums very rarely get any appreciation for anything they do (like shopping for clothes ect) and if they do say thank you (for anything) its usually "thank you Dad" not thank you squirrel.
Sorry Bradsmummy, I didn?t welcome you (my head is all over the place ATM, got a lot on my plate). I am glad you are feeling better, having a rant does help.
It does sound a lot like your DSD has depression, my daughter had it as a teenager and she was a nightmare. I understand what you mean when you say it sounds like normal teenage behaviour, because a lot of what my daughter was doing sounded like normal behaviour but when you witnessed it, it was quite obviously more than that, it was the way she did things rather than what she did. Does that make sense to you? A counsellor sounds like a really good idea, I hope that she gets the help she needs. Your DSD must feel terribly rejected by her BM, I know my own mother will not have anything to do with me and yes, it bloody hurts! Although to be honest I think I?m much better off without her, but that doesn?t stop it hurting. I couldn?t imagine not wanting anything to do with my daughter no matter what she had done!
Your DSD is very lucky to have you, hang on in there.
The meals thing was just a for-instance, not specifically meals, although my kids do say thank you for that, come to think of it when DP cooks for me I say thank you and visa versa, I guess we are just polite.
The point I was trying to make was Step mums very rarely get any appreciation for anything they do (like shopping for clothes ect) and if they do say thank you (for anything) its usually "thank you Dad" not thank you squirrel.
Sorry Bradsmummy, I didn?t welcome you (my head is all over the place ATM, got a lot on my plate). I am glad you are feeling better, having a rant does help.
It does sound a lot like your DSD has depression, my daughter had it as a teenager and she was a nightmare. I understand what you mean when you say it sounds like normal teenage behaviour, because a lot of what my daughter was doing sounded like normal behaviour but when you witnessed it, it was quite obviously more than that, it was the way she did things rather than what she did. Does that make sense to you? A counsellor sounds like a really good idea, I hope that she gets the help she needs. Your DSD must feel terribly rejected by her BM, I know my own mother will not have anything to do with me and yes, it bloody hurts! Although to be honest I think I?m much better off without her, but that doesn?t stop it hurting. I couldn?t imagine not wanting anything to do with my daughter no matter what she had done!
Your DSD is very lucky to have you, hang on in there.
Looptheloop, Blimey, why on earth does she expect you to help her out?!? Your right it?s her mess, she needs to sort it out!
Its always the kids that suffer isn't it, feel so sorry for the youngest, why would you want to act like that in front of your kids, unbelievable (well no, its not actually but YKWIM)
I'm also angry with BM at the mo, SD(9) revealed that she looks after her little brother (18mths, by her current DP) while BM sleeps during the day, I know she works nights but a 9yr old is not capable of looking after a 18mth old for several hours alone! If BM can't get a babysitter she should not work nights IMO! SD changes his dirty nappies, feeds him ect, what if the child chokes? 18mth olds are always falling over and hurting themselves, they need an adult to look after them not a 9yr old child. Also it?s a lot of responsibility for a 9yr old, BM gets angry if SD can't keep the baby amused and quiet so that she can sleep.
GRRRRR, rant rant rant!