Not all ex-wives are bad...... (Sorry long....)

[talie101]

I'm sick to the back teeth of my ex-husband making me out to be the bad one here and I just wanted to make you aware that sometimes it's your partners/husbands that distort the truth to make it better for them!

Long story cut short... exh kept in touch with his ex-girlfriend for most of my marriage behind my back. He eventually left me... swore not for you but ended up announcing he was with you to all just after we officially got divorced! He made life completely unbearable for both me and the dc's (2 yrs, and 6 months when he left) being very verbally abusive and a couple of times physically abusive.. witnessed by eldedst dc who had to have counselling to help her... still suffers now on occasions according to how ex is towards me! I don't know what his problem is... he left me! I didn't shit on him!

We are now almost 5 yrs down the line and he is still causing tension between us all... I don't care about him or you but I do care when it has a negative affect on the children and they are now refusing to have access with him because of the tension on pick up. I'm sick of him choosing when he will or wont talk to me in front of the children.. wont even have eye contact with me when you (OW) are in the car with him! When I have something important to relay to you(exh) I deserve a little respect and expect you to listen and respond accordingly and not grunt or treat me like shit in front of the children... IT AFFECTS THEM!!!! The person who needs to get over himself is him... grow up and accept the blame for the part you (exh) play in this... stop passing the buck! I have worked long and hard to get the children back to feeling stable and secure for him to let it go tits up every so often. I have worked hard to keep access going on a regular basis and try to encourage when they dont want to go.... You (OW) refuse to meet up with me to make your own judgements (you don't know how difficult that was for me to ask you to do that!.. but you obviously believe everything he says and don't want to have any sort of relationship with me either!)

I have not once caused you (OW) any trouble... I have risen above the sh't, moved on, accept you as part of my dc's lives... but do not want you as part of my life, to see your face or make a friend of you... but with more time that may come.

My ex on occasions (mostly when he is away working) has text me saying he regrets leaving, he wishes things were different, I look gorgeous etc etc..... and yes, I have replied in the past when I sometimes felt I wanted...not necessarily him, but 'a family life' again for the sake of my children. I have said we can talk but thought I would never trust him again... on not getting the response he expected, he starts the crap up again because he can't have his own way with me, I have forwarded them to you (OW) to show that he is being an arse to both of us!

Because he is so sly though he has managed to convince you that it is all me texting him and that he only replies to keep me sweet so I wont stop him seeing the children (something I have never and would never do!).

You have the cheek to give me a mouthful and tell me to 'move on' etc when I ask you to relay a message to him regarding the dc's that he refuses to acknowledge via me!

If he is being genuine with you in that he feels the need to send me flirty messages to keep me 'sweet'... how childish is this?.. do you think this is acceptable behaviour and why do you allow him to do this also?

If he is not being genuine with you and texting me again behind your back... I think you need to reassess your relationship and stop giving me a hard time! Give him the shit! Just because he is showing you the texts he has received from me does not mean he is being truthful with you... he is quite capable of deleting ones he sends... like all those between the two of you for most of my married life!!!!!!!!!!!

One of us is being taken for a complete ride here.. or maybe both!

If you know first hand that the ex wife if a bitch or whatever, thats fine... but don't judge us if you only have this information via your partner......it's NOT always the truth and ends up causing everyone unneccessary hurt!