Any advice for explainig new baby to young DSC's?

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Hi,

I've never posted on the step-parenting thread before, so I hope I'm not intruding. I'd really value some advice from some seasoned Mum+Step-Mums...

Basically, I have acquired two young SDC's (2+3) and have recently found out I'm expecting my first baby (due end of August.)

I have met DP's children, and we have a great time, although I haven't seen them for quite some time now,as I work away and DP's ex has decided that she doesnt want me to see them(Am hoping she'll come round soon!) DP will be moving in with me this month. We will quite far away from his children, and so he will only have weekend access (right now he sees them as and when-they have no set pattern). I do feel guilty aabout this, but at the same time, I need some support from him too -I hope that doesn't make me sound selfish.

I'm just concerned about his kids, and how this is all going to affect them...not just the new Daddy routine, but also the fact they are having a new half brother or sister. Especially as they have not been allowed to get to know me

Are there any childrens books, or do any of you have any advice/ ideas on how DP can go about making these changes as easy as possible for his little ones? I would really value some tips and advice.

Sorry this is a bit lengthy, and thanks for reading!

Sorry no-one has answered you yet, and I'm not sure I'm going to be much help either. When your DP sees his existing DCs, will they be staying with you, or will he visit them at their house/in their hometown, and not have them overnight? If he's seeing them alone - without you - he could introduce the idea that daddy has a special friend, then that there's a new baby, with photos and so on, so they have an idea what to expect when they meet you and your lo later. I suppose the thing is that he mustn't let them feel that he left them to be with you and the new one - that he has a new family and the existing DC don't count, but they're awfully little for complicated answers.