I have never posted in this topic before so I hope I am not intruding

[TrinityRhino]

I have 2 stepsons
they are in their 20s
one year apart

one lives near us and the other has just moved in with us after living quite a way away

I get on very well with them both, my girls love their big brothers

They have gone to visit their mum and whilst they are there she has been rushed into hospital with a suspected heart attack

ss2 phoned me to tell me that they may not be coming back as previously planned and told me why

I said 'oh no, oh darling' and didn't know what else to say....

he said he would ring me tomorrow to let me know what was happening

I need to tell dh
I have no idea how he is going to feel
not sure what I should say or do with both dh and the boys

not really sure why I'm posting this....

oh dear, trinity, how awful for your SSs.
your DH is likely to be shocked at least and probably sad.

All you can do is support them and be there for them when they need you - let them know they can count on you for support, that's the best thing.

thanks thumb
that really is all I can do
and I am there for them, I feel so sad for them
I hope she is going to be ok

someone else want to tell me nice things
like she will be ok and that I will be able to show them I am there for them

oh, depending on the lead up to suspected heart attack, it could turn out to be something much more minor, like indigestion.

quite a common mistake, that.

just spoken to ss2 on msn

she is stable but in pain, having more tests later

well that's a good sign, Trinity! Fingers crossed.

crossing everything

not sure when dh is coming home

thats a good sign - think just listening, being there with tea (booze/large meal) and sympathy will mean a lot to them

yes poppy

I have told ss2 they must ring me anytime if they need anyhitng or to talk
they are 200 miles away at the mo

I can do the beer, meal and hugs/listening ear for dh when he gets back

told dh
he is quiet

I think your DH needs to get there if at all possible and show them they have his support. Would mean a lot.

dh spoke to them on the phone last night

we haven't heard anything more yet

he isn't going down as he needs to work, would have nowhere to stay and they are at the hospital mostly (not somewhere he would be welcome)

they are doing ok, have each other and know they can ring us for ANYTHING at ANYTIME

Hope she and they are OK. And your DH. They sound lucky to have you around.

thnks hassled
spoke to them this morning
still no news, more tests later

spoke to ss2 last night
confirmed heart attack
an artery keeps closing
she is having a stent put in and when all is well and she is out of the hospital, they will be coming home

Of course you aren't intruding! It's open house here as far as I'm concerned .

You sounds lovely and the most important thing is that even if you and your dh aren't there to do anything practical, they feel supported by you. And I bet she'll appreciate that they have both of you and she doesn't have the worry about someone being there for them when she isn't.

What a worry for you all. Hope she is on the mend soon.