looking after DSD's baby for 3 days- would you expect her to ring at least once?

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I've had DSD's 2 yr old baby for the last 3-4 days, while she has a break with her boyfriend. She hasn't once rang or texted me. Baby now returned to her (by my DH). Not a word. Do you think that's odd? If someone had one of my kids for 3 days (not that they ever have! but if they did I would ring and check everything was ok. And say thank you because I would also be bloody grateful!! But she hasn't said one word to me! Is it just me or is that a bit strange?

very strange

strange in what way?
presumably she trusted you in order to leave the baby with you in the first place.
if i trusted you enbough to do that, i wouldnt need to check up on you every 5 minutes.
she was having a break for a few days, whats the big deal?

i have been away without my v young children. i thought hard about it and left them with people i trusted implicitly. did i ring every day? no i did not, what would be the point??

odd, i'd at least want to say hello to my child and see how they are. and would of course be profusely grateful!

strange in an uncaring and ungrateful way

I shouldn't bother taking the child overnight again

Nappies...I dont think the OP mentioned anything about wanting a phone call every 5 minutes! Nor did she say it was a big deal.

I think any 'normal' mother would phone at least once, you know, to show that you care and that you are grateful and having a bloody good time....Yes I do think it strange that she never phoned while you had her dd. Weird if you ask me.
Also downright bloody rude for her not to have been in touch since.

sorry nappies , I totally disgree with you.
Nothing wrong with leaving young children with trusted carers at all - but a 2 year old knows their mothers voice, a good morning and or a good night call is totally in order. I'd be worried about her tbh.

Definitely weird.
If I were leaving my ds with anyone I would certainly ring up at least once a day, and certainly to say night night!!

That is odd. I would ring up at least once, and personally thank the babysitter - I think that's what most parents would do.

Bloody weird (and the lack of effusive thanks is frankly out of order) i wouldn't be doing it again!

If my parents have ds overnight I do call, not because I think I need to but just so they know I haven't gone out and completely forgotten my responsibilities and am not taking them for granted or anything.
However, if I was to go on an actual break with dp, I might not call. You wouldn't expect a call if they'd been on their honeymoon or something would you?

Maybe she said thank you a lot to your DH?

My ILs often have one of my DSes for a couple of days, or even a week. I tend not to ring when they're there. (Mine are 7 and 4.) I do make clear to my ILs how much I appreciate them taking the boys, though. And if they boys want to talk to me, they get the ILs to ring. (Last visit they took DS1 to Cornwall, and I know they never turn on their mob, so ringing is pointless anyway.)

I would call, but I think you should take it as a compliment-she must trust your parenting skills.
Although she didn't thank you it does mean that you can have a good relationship with the grandchild-much better than the over possessive types who won't let you get close.

My DSD never says thankyou when I look after her child overnight (a two month old who wakes up for feeding in the night!)
But she's always been ungrateful and spoilt.