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Manipulative DSD? Sorry a bit long but need advice!

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KatieScarlett1 · 11/11/2008 09:12

My SD is 16 and was living with us as she didn't get on with her mum. She brought her boyfriend to stay whilst I was pregnant and a weekend turned into a week. As i was very close to giving birth it made me feel very uncomfortable having a stranger moping about the house. DH told her the boyfriend couldn't stay until after the baby was born which provoked a huge hissy from DSD who said if BF wasn't welcome than neither was she. She took herself off to stay with friends. She now has a new BF and lives with him and his parents. He has mental health problems which he copes with admirably but now SD has decided she is ill too. Claiming that she's hearing voices and has been since she was 4. Says the voices tell her to hurt herself her dad and our DS'S (6mnth + 4yo). She has been to see mental health pros who have said its an attention thing. DH is understandably worried sick about this and wants her to move home. She says she won't leave her boyf. Neither my DH or i are willing to have BF living with us bt are at a loss as what to do. I keep getting txts from DSD saying she cannot cope and needs help but all the help we offer is refused. What can We do? Please help!!!!!!!

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ElfOnTheTopShelf · 11/11/2008 23:32

Goodness. Dont know where to start really.
I personally wouldn't allow the boyf stopping if you are not comfortable. She sounds a little manipulative tbh
Am bumping to see if anybody wiser is around!

dsrplus8 · 11/11/2008 23:44

oh dear,id talk to her very gently and offer to go back to the doctors with her.poor girl sounds desperate for attention,.getting her to move home isnt necssesarily the best thing for her, her new BFs family have experience of helping mental health problems...why not ask them to keep an eye on her and let u know if shes ok? they might have ideas on how u can help your dsd.hopefully this will just turn out to b a phase shes going through and will fizzle out...most likely she could be feeling pushed out by the new baby and is trying to gain attention to reafirm that you,your dh and your kids still love her.hope it works out 4 u all

KatieScarlett1 · 14/11/2008 13:00

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