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bini · 03/11/2008 21:46

Hi there
Can anyone help me please? I have met someone and my children have met him but my eldest son (age 6) is becoming very difficult around him. DS responds very well to story books when he is facing something new. I just cant seem to find an appropriate book for him about new partners. They all seem to be about stepfamilies who live together and are married. I just want a book about a new partner. Can anyone tell me if such a thing exists and if so, where I can get it? Many thanks

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AbbeyA · 04/11/2008 08:44

I don't know about a book, but why not let your new partner spend time with your DS1 on their own so that they can get to know each other without you being around?

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bini · 04/11/2008 11:32

Thanks, I will give it a go

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mamamany · 04/11/2008 11:46

Just talk to him, let him understand that things might be a little bit different but he's still the number 1 man in your life. If it's been a while then that may be an issue for him.
HTH

AbbeyA · 04/11/2008 16:30

I only wrote a little as I thought you would have lots of replies.
The reason for them doing things on their own is that if you are always there it may seem to your DS that he is getting half the attention. If he has a relationship in its own right then he can see it as double the attention. My DS was 6 yrs when I met DH, early on, they both went an painted something in the garage and it seemed to bond them! It is very simple to do-might only be going down to the park for half an hour to kick a ball around.

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bini · 04/11/2008 22:29

Thank you both for your thoughts. It's good to know there are people out there who've had similar problems

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milliemayhem · 10/11/2008 12:50

How about 'writing' your own book? Maybe you could get the words down on paper that your DS may need to hear? If your techno minded you could knock something up on the computer, a few pages of A4 paper, a bright card cover and some pictures. If its in a font rather than your handwriting theres no reason your DS will ever know you've done it. It may help. Good luck

milliemayhem · 10/11/2008 12:51

How about 'writing' your own book? Maybe you could get the words down on paper that your DS may need to hear? If your techno minded you could knock something up on the computer, a few pages of A4 paper, a bright card cover and some pictures. If its in a font rather than your handwriting theres no reason your DS will ever know you've done it. It may help. Good luck

milliemayhem · 10/11/2008 12:52

I'm not techno minded, at all, as you can see! Double posts. Dur

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