Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

Please or to access all these features

Step-parenting

Connect with other Mumsnetters here for step-parenting advice and support.

Does anyone else have a dsd older than they could have biologically had?

10 replies

loudmouthmum · 25/08/2008 23:20

After 4 years of being with my current partner, I have a very good relationship with my 2 Dsd's, but sometimes, I get a little weirded out by the fact that Dsd1 was born when I was 14 (her mum is only 1 year older than me). I had my dd when I was 16 (I'm 27 now), and it's hard enough bringing her up, as I wasn't REALLY old enough to have her! I love my dsd's to pieces, and they are the same in return (dsd1 calls me mum2),but she's older than I could biologically have given birth to. Has anyone else got any tips for this situation & also for when she becomes a teenager next year, as I'm a little worried that when her dad moves in, we have to squish everyone into 3 very small rooms at weekends and holidays, her becoming a teenager might change the good relationship that we have now?

OP posts:
Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
AccidentalMum · 27/08/2008 22:06

My DD is 12 and I'm 27...and I was a late developer hehe so it does feel weird. Se's the same age as my youngest sister and her mum is only a few years off mine. TBH though, she thought I was way cool, until DD1 came along...now I'm just another old person I think.

AccidentalMum · 27/08/2008 22:07

Sorry...my DSD is 12 (honest mistake...I am obviously top quality devoted stepmum eh! )

TrinityRhino · 27/08/2008 22:08

my dss's are 21 and 22

I am 30

we get on great

Kelix · 01/09/2008 13:47

My dsd is 12 and I am 23. We did get on fine, until her mum decided otherwise

Anna8888 · 01/09/2008 13:48

Not me, but a friend of mine's stepmother is younger than her. They do not really get on at all.

emanon · 02/09/2008 22:54

My dsd is 29 and I am 41. We have a great relationship.

TheHedgeWitch · 04/09/2008 10:05

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn

dinasaw · 14/09/2008 23:14

My dss's are almost 16 and 18. I just turned 30.
It's been weird and still is. Going to parent's evenings at school is interesting.

Carmenere · 14/09/2008 23:20

My dsd is 21, I'm 38. So not impossible at all but very unlikely as none of my contemporaries had dc's before their 30's. I feel far too young to be a parental figure but it works well as dp is 50 and I act as a kind of bridge between the ages. He might hit the roof about something (drink, drugs ect) and I, because being young and irresponsible is not such a distant memory, am able to tell him to chill a bit.

unaccomplishedfattylegalmummy · 21/09/2008 23:55

My DSD is 16 and I'm 30. It can be a little weird most of the time I feel more like her big sister than a "mother figure". Although DH is only 34 so it's hard enough for him when disciplining her. It is rather funny though if DH and DSD take DD1 (5) and DD2 (2) out without me as Dsd looks a little older than 16 they do get some funny looks.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page