Would this be weird?

[superflybaby]

DP has 2 DD 11 & 10
Me & DP have 1 DD, 24 mo
We have been together 8 years
DP's Ex & I keep our distance, although there are no bad feelings
DP only deals with her when he has to, he finds her quite difficult at times

DSD 2 has a school fair which she is performing in on Saturday. She wants her Dad to come see her. He wants me to come, which is cool, I'll bring DD, which DSD will love as they can show her off to their friends.

But my Mum wants to come too as the school DSD attends is the same school my Mum went to when she was a girl and she wants opportunity to look around. DSD will like her coming as they spend a lot of time with my Mum around, she is like a Step-Granny!

But DSD Mum will be there too, with her own other DD.

Will this all be too much?! Should I tell my Mum to stay home? Should I stay at home & let DP take our DD?

It's such a nightmare deciding what is acceptable!

so long as there's no bad feeling i don't see why you all can't go. it's your mums school as well so i wouldn't be going out of my way to change my plans. (am now waiting to be flamed.....)

If there are no bad feelings, I don't see why you can't all go either. If you are all mature, knowing that you are going to support your DSD then why not? You don't have to sit side by side.

I really can't see the problem. My ExH and new wife come to my DD and DS things at school. My DP also comes as does his mother, and they actually call her Granny! Children love to see that we can all be civil.

Of course your mother should go - she has a relationship with your DSchildren, which is important to them as well.

It's a school fair, so there will be lots of people milling about so I'd say it'll be fine.

As long as there are no tensions between the ex and your mum (can't see why there would be!) then I am sure you'll all enjoy it!

You are all supporting your dsd
that is A Good Thing

I don't see the problem

Thanks, I think it is just me who thinks it might be a bit wierd! A bit Demi Bruce & Ashton I guess.

Well we're all going & I'm sure it'll all be fine. Maybe a few awkward moments, but at least I know it's all normal. Thanks.

For the record - this was weird. It was a nice sunny day, I had a good morning with DD & then I went to this fair.. to watch DSD2 perform Country Dancing there was her Dad, her Mum, 3 x sisters, me, Step-Granny, Aunty, 2 x cousins, bio-Granny & Grandad. We all ended up standing in awkawrd silence together around the stage. Found it all a bit stifling so went to beer tent for Magners, hate Magners but was only cold thing, then had headache for rest of day.

For any Step-Mums out there, unless the kids really really want you there - save yourself the stress & leave this kind of thing to the bio- parents.