It's downhill when you have a Disney dad

[Archiemctavish]

I had a Disney dad.
He, the dad(, did not seem to care, nor understand how his daughters behaviour outcast the other 2 kids from my side
His child ruined every day out, always verbally numbered herself as number 1, in a group setting, leaving my own annoyed,, we don't do numbers.
He and his child,s mother had been divorced 6 yrs before we met
He was an adoring dad, never missed contact,paid generously.
I tried so hard to understand.
But ultimately, my own were feeling hurt.
So I left the relationship.
Has anyone else, experienced this?

You tried so hard to understand what?

Did you live together?
How long was this going on for?

Did you try to make a blended family with this man or just have days out together?

Your dad or your kids dad? This is hard to understand.

Wtf is a Disney dad

I think it depends on a few things. Did you live together? If so I can see how his daughter felt pushed out and wanted to reclaim that position in her dad's life that she felt your children may have occupied.

I don't think there's enough information to say he was a Disney dad, I mean he absolutely could have been, but equally it could just be that you have differing parenting styles that don't line up.

So your dad worked at Disney? I'm struggling to make sense of your rambling.

i think Op dated/lived with a guy who she terms a Disney dad, and by him being that, it meant her own children were feeling left out/sidelined and as her children were upset she subsequently left the relationship (which is obviously the right thing to do).

I know exactly what you mean, you need to realise he was doing his own daughter no favours
in the situation I was involved in one DS has never worked, never paid a bill or done a single domestic chore in to adulthood. still gets pandered to and enabled
the other DS stopped going to school because he was terrified of exams and nobody was willing to help him revise because it was more important to let only do exactly as he pleased - stay up all night gaming, sleep all day, get food delivered to their room

in both cases they were great kids, being a Disney is not about loving his children, it is about his own ego

@PancakeCloud , Wtf is a Disney dad
A noncustodial parent who indulges his or her child with gifts and good times during visitation and leaves most or all disciplinary responsibilities to the other parent.

She clearly was in a relationship with a divorced disney dad whom had children he spoiled, but never enforced good behaviour.
This ruined their time together.
Eventually, finally, she left because of the negative impact on her own children.
Her own children no doubt damaged from witnessing this.
Very toxic for children to be around, setting them up as less than in a supposed family setting.
Toxic.

nope, because I would have realised the relationship was a nonstarter as soon as I discovered he was a Disney dad and would have ended it. At least you’ve learned, albeit the hard way for you and your kids, that dating a person who is so deeply selfish that they would rather not parent their children than upset them rendering that child growing up unlikeable, really isn’t a very good idea.

I thought disney dad was a common in usage term - it's apparently in the oxford english dictionary.

Just means a dad who does the expensive fun things every so often and none of the rest of parenting which falls on the other resident parent.

It read like OP was step parent with own kids who had to deal with some unchecked unpleasant behavior from step kid and in end left relationship becuase of it.

Sounds like leaving was best for your kids OP.

Is this haiku?
I do not understand what
You Are
Saying, what is a Disney dad?
But it is much easier
for the reader
When you
Write
In sentences and paragraphs.

Was it you who had the Disney dad?
Or was it?
Another family
On
A day out?

Please be clearer

How long were you with him @Archiemctavish
At least you left him and didn't force your own children into the blended family set up for life.

You worded it like the man was your dad, not a boyfriend.

It's fine to dump someone for any reason at all. If he didn't enhance your life and dating him was unenjoyable, there's no point.

This exactly.