very worried about her.
She lives with her mum and dss (who is 13). They used to visit every other weekend but have dropped that down to school holidays pretty much. Dss has been saying for a month or so that she is going off the rails. She's out drinking and smoking with friends after school. Her school reports say she is not keeping up anymore (last year she did really well in SATs) and puts in no effort. She keeps getting detention.
DH was hoping it was just usual "teenage" attitude but last weekend we caught her smoking roll up fags out of her bedroom window at midnight.
I spent 2 hours talking to her to find out why she is behaving like this. SHe seems extremely unhappy, told me she is worried about schoolwork. Her mum moved a new bf in without any notice (they'd not even met him), now each weekend she has to share her room with his daughter. She said she misses spending time with her mum and brother. Doesn't want to tell her mum how she feels because she wouldn't want to stop Mum's bfs children from seeing him.
She thinks her dad hates her as he is always lecturing her. This is probably true, her mum doesn't set any boundaries or call her up on bad behaviour so DH does it. She didn't mention her new baby sister (7 months). I asked how she felt and she got very upset saying she loved her but hated the fact that she would get to grow up with her dad. She said she felt her dad didn't need to like her anymore because he had a new daughter.
Dh did his best to reassure her she was loved equally - don't think it worked.
His exW will do nothing about the behaviour as she can't be bothered to fight dsd. Wat on earth can we do? ExW is very hostile and difficult for DH to talk to btw