Anyone live apart together?

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Considering this with DP. Anyone done it, especially if you also share a child/children? How does it work, what does it look like? Would appreciate any info from anyone who’s been there.

We tried living together and it didn't work. We're now living apart and it isn't really working. I think if you have good foundations and he's a supportive and attentive partner, living apart could work. It won't fix a failing relationship as I have learnt.

Best of luck.

I have been with my DP for 8 years. We both have 2 children and made the decision early on we would not blend. 3 (18, 18 & 23) of the DC are at university now with the youngest being 15. We have time for us afterwards, people question is constantly but it works for us.

We do a hybrid. My DP lives with me and my kids plus we have an “ours” baby. When he has SC he has them at his parents house. We tried blending and it didn’t work. This is what works for us and our kids.

My dh and I tried for many years to blend and it really wasn’t working and it caused so many issues.
We split up last month but have decided to try staying together but living apart. So far it’s going well. Time will tell

Do you mind me asking how you manage to explain to people that you don't live with your husband? Doesn't it feel like a precursor to divorce? Also do you have any shared children?

I think it makes a lot of sense to live separately as opposed to blending families.

@Jlspemn88If the person you are explaining to have experience of a blended family they will most likely understand why this would be a preferred option!

At the moment it’s really early days and we haven’t told many people that we are back dating. Some family members really won’t like it.
We are focusing on putting the kids first and seeing each other when we are free and it just being about us. To him other peoples opinions really don’t matter and I’m learning to be the same way. Our aim is still to live together in time but when the kids are a little older and more independent. We were going to divorce but now we’ve decided to try dating again we are just taking it one day at a time. Maybe this won’t work but we are hopeful it will.