I’m a wicked step mother because… (part two)

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I won’t allow BM to do DSD homework after she allowed her not to go to school for 2 years

(Found the last one comical so could do with another giggle)

I am a wicked step mother because I don’t think it’s healthy for a 6 year old to spend all weekend watching simpsons alone in their room 🤦‍♀️

I was a wicked stepmother as I made 5yr old stepson hold my hand when crossing an extremely busy road, I wouldn't allow him to stay up till he fell asleep on the settee and only then take him to bed, I wouldn't allow him to eat a mars bar 5 mins before I was putting his dinner out and I wouldn't allow him to eat chocolate cake for breakfast. All these things my ex dh allowed and unsurprisingly the marriage didn't last long!

I’m a wicked stepmother because my DH puts photos of not just him, but also him AND ME, on his social media. It’s just not acceptable. I shouldn’t have any presence on his social media, because I am insignificant.

I’m a wicked stepmother for feeling that grown adult children should be flying the nest at some point 🤣

Haven't been a sm for many years post divorce but I remember complaints about not changing dsd's shoes when we changed her outfit (wee-d).. Unacceptable she wasn't matching..
I also let her poo on the toilet without first lining the water with loo roll..
And I took her shopping with my 2 dd's instead of leaving her with her df who was grieving the loss of his best mate and on sleeping tablets and asleep..
Twas a Brucie Bloody Bonus that woman is long gone from my life.

I'm a wicked stepmum for asking and expecting 11yo DSD to move up slightly on the large sofa she is entirely sprawled on so that I can prop my recently injured ankle up which later turned out to be broken.

I'm a wicked stepmum because sometimes I like to sit next to DH on the sofa which means DSS will refuse to be in the room with us and go upstairs after loudly saying that there is no room for him. He has been pointed to the other sofa and the 2 armchairs but next to DH is the only acceptable place. This has been an ongoing issue over the past 5 years so I rarely sit with DH but on boxing day I sat next to him and DSS reacted in exactly the same way.

Also an evil stepmum because I don't go looking for dirty clothes to wash on my DSS and DSDs floor. I wash only what's in the laundry basket.

I'm a wicked SM and SGM because I just am. After 25 years I've had enough of it.

DH is immuno-compromised because of palliative treatment for his incurable cancer. Tomorrow we have to entertain his immediate family with various degrees of respiratory illness. They could potentially kill him, but they don't actually care.

No, You don't have to entertain them. Get them masked and gowned if they must visit to say goodbye.

Im with @MarxistMags on this one, absolutely not. Not a risk worth taking - how selfish of them!

I’m an evil step mum for daring to place a vegetable on the DSDs plate and not offering any pudding unless she at least takes a bite to try it. Instead she expects to dictate exactly what I cook, which should only be beige and have full access to chocolate puddings and snacks both before and after all meals lol. Vegetables are clearly child abuse in her and her mothers mind

I'm a wicked SM because I begrudge coming home from a full day's work and hour commute to find 2x older teen DSC sitting with their feet up reading/gaming, waiting to be cooked for, with the dishwasher finished but they have just piled up dirty plates rather than empty it, their laundry (that the adults have done) all hanging out waiting to be put away, full bins and general mess just all sitting there. Oh and they use the only sofa to pile their coats and bags on. One of them is nearly 18.

I was an evil step mum because I asked sd to brush her hair. Social services also seemed to agree this was awful and so I stopped asking her and she the complained about bullying in school
due to her messy hair. Could not have cared less at this point

I was a wicked step-mother because I agreed to SD's request to stay with me after her dad left us for OW. SD had been living with us for 10 years, was 15 and about to take her GCSE's. I should of course told her she had to disrupt her education midway through the school year to go and live with her dad and a person she didn't know in a 1 bed flat 2 hours drive away.

I am a wicked step mom because

I expect my sd to put her used makeup wipes in the bin which is in her room and and not left on the floor

same applies with chocolate wrappers which she shoves down the side of the sofa rather than put them in the bin 🙄

Because I wouldn’t use the money I had saved for maternity leave pay for SD to go on a luxury holiday that cost more per person than my honeymoon. She’d already told my husband that she hated me (for no reason I’m always nice to her) a few weeks earlier, then all of a sudden because he couldn’t afford it I should pay as I’m her stepmum

I was a wicked stepmother when I said it wasn't appropriate to discuss child maintenance on the doorstep in front of SD after BM decided she wanted double shortly after we got married. I told her that DH would contact CMS instead of the private agreement if she was unhappy and when she wouldn't drop the subject I said that I was ending the conversation now and shut the door.

Also when I refused to feed SD a steady stream of junk food all weekend when she was already overweight and gave her fruit instead of sweets and crisps.

Then again when I told BM what Christmas presents I'd bought for SD so we didn't have duplicates. She blocked me, sent me an email calling me a bitch, banned me from her driveway to pick SD up and we've barely spoken since, so I'm not sure what else has been added to the list since then.

Oh no, I forgot one, also when my parents picked SD up from school half an hour early on the day I gave birth to her sister so she could meet her because that was when visiting hours were. That was unacceptable apparently, despite SD taking an entire week off to accompany BM on an IVF holiday and full days for every scan at the hospital when BM had her brother. I heard about that from DH before he switched his phone off.

I think it is rather unfair to assign their motivations. Equally they could say Northern is making up excuses to keep us away from our dying father, because she wants to hurt as many people as possible.

Are you proposing a solution? Because on that post alone, I am seeing they are being set up to “Not Care” because they come to see him whilst immunocompromised or “Not Care” if they didn’t come to see him.
What are they actually supposed to do here?

I’m a wicked step mum because I had enough of DSS co-sleeping in our bed when he was 5 years old (despite putting a double bed in DSSs bedroom so DP could still sleep with him if he wanted). Another wicked thing I did was declined to take him to swimming lessons every week, he has 2 able and capable parents 😂

@WhoIsTheCunt it's much more complicated than that. I just want DH to have some quality time with his DD, to have the conversations they need to have, while there is still time. She seems determined to throw as much distraction in the way as possible so this doesn't happen, DH gets more upset and I am the bad guy - again.

I’m a wicked step mother just because I breath.
i expect SS to put his keys and shoes away instead of leaving them lying around. Expect washing to be put in the basket. Expect him to do his own dishes after I’ve JUST finished cleaning the kitchen.

I’m an evil stepmother for expecting my SS to fall in with the same standards as the rest of us, ie room tidy, dirty washing in basket, eat with cutlery not hands (he’s 15) and generally give a shit about being part of a household.

Ah, that feels better!

I’m a wicked step mother because I’ll only agree to a nose piercing at the start of the summer holiday and will expect her to put a clear one in for school.

(I wouldn’t mind but I was on her side! Dad would have gone with a blanket No Way Not Ever!)

Today it’s because SS cheated on his GF and I’ve taken her side.