Hi all,
so….. basically I have a stepdaughter of 23, her dad and I have 4 children together. There is always tension and awkwardness as husband treats her differently to our kids.
we went out for dinner on Christmas Day and the stepdaughter and grandmother were talking about my daughters weight when she was sat right next to them saying she has no meat on her bones and looks like a rake and it’s not normal. My daughters left the table upset. I found my daughter crying and she was upset saying that her sister is always saying things about her weight every time she is in her company. I told my husband I wanted to move out daughter and boyfriend to where we were sat at the other end of the table. We went back to the table, my daughter moved down to where we were sat and my husband sat where she was previously sitting saying ‘I’ll sit here shall I’. I saw red and said ‘yeah, you sit there and then you can all talk about it can’t you’. His daughter then started shouting ‘I didn’t even saying anything, what have I said’ I just put my hand up and said ‘it doesn’t matter’. My husband then came down to me and basically made me feel like I was in the wrong kicking off, so I told him, i said I wanted to move daughter and her boyfriend down to where we were sat, not him sit up there with her boyfriend away from me and our younger kids, so he came and sat back down our end. Also stepdaughters 4 year old was also running round the table the whole time, then banged her head on the table where we were sat and she came over and got her and had a go at her dad when he asked if she was ok and what had happened. We ate, paid up, she and her partner and 4 year old left, without saying by to me, her dad or her siblings. We didn’t hear anything Christmas Day but then it all blew up the day after Boxing Day, she messaged her dad saying ‘you can keep your little family, but don’t include mine’ and that I’m so rude and a twat and that everyone has been pussyfooting round me all the time etc etc. The beginning of the message says it all, she’s jealous and struggling with the fact that her dad has me and more children. But she’s 23 and to put down her sister because she has issues of jealousy is disgusting. Then her mamma has been on side and also grandad. He even said on the phone last night to my 18 year old daughter that if she upsets her mamma, that she’ll have him to deal with and in comparison, her dad is a oussycat. He also said that I have our youngest (8) on one tit and our 18 year old wants to be on the other. I am so shocked at this behaviour, both from 23 year old stepdaughter and from grandparents. It’s disgusting.