My son and husband (nice post)

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A few weeks ago my son had an interview and my DH was due in work at his job. I’d taken his bank card because he didn’t need it and online banking isn’t currently working on his phone. It was really lashing down outside and my son’s interviewer had asked him to go in early and he needed to get a train to the office. He realised his Spotify direct debit had come out of his bank. Now, the pair of dopes got so stressed they didn’t think to text me here to send over a tenner to DS but DH had a £10 on him to put petrol in the car on the way to work. So he put on his big winter coat and walked to work in the rain. Takes 80 minutes by foot. Just without any hesitation so my son made the interview on time. My sons own father once took my son into nursery with a severely burnt hand because he wasn’t looking after him when he should have been and didn’t seek medical treatment. I didn’t give my son a decent birth father but I gave him a stepdad who would put himself last in every occasion to make my son feel loved. I suppose this board is quite a harsh and sad place at times but I just wanted to share with other blended families that sometimes we do get it right and give our kids the parent they deserve.
Also my son got the job and rang my DH to tell him about it and it was a sounding like a scam and my DH told him to say no, don’t waste anymore time on this company and my DS “but you walked to work” and DH (this has been relayed to me by them both) told him that he was to be pleased with himself for getting the job and the experience of interviewing is just as important as getting the job. I can’t express how much they both annoy me 95% of the time but I found this incredibly sweet. (Oh and DHs colleague dropped him home so he didn’t have to do the walk back)

How lovely. Step parents get all the hate on MN; it’s good to be reminded that some Step parents are fabulous! x

My step dad was amazing, I don't like calling him step dad because he was my dad in every way that is important, he went to my parents evenings, told me he was proud of me, told me off when I was a pain up the arse, adored my kids equally to my half brother and sisters. He was my dad, I was his daughter, I miss him every day, he died last year, I'm 48, he was so important to me, he was my Dad.

This is so lovely… sounds like they have a lovely relationship which must make you so proud.

My step dad is amazing- more of a father to me than my biological dad ever was. He walked me down the aisle on my wedding day and is now the most incredible Grandad to my
2 girls. I feel so lucky to have him.

I love this.
kindness to your son but also, as a mum of boys who also have a rubbish dad the way to my heart is people being kind to them so in a way your DH was also being kind to you.

It’s so nice to hear. My DH step Mum was and is evil. A truely vile excuse for a human being

Friends however, he’s the step Dad and at his step daughter’s wedding, she chose him to walk her down the aisle. He bought both his step daughter’s houses outright when he came into money. For their 18th he bought them cars. Both girls consider him their Dad, and have as little to do with their biological Dad as possible. He would walk through fire and give his last breath for his step daughters and by return, they adore him

a big cheer for those that take on kids and treat them as their own 🥰

I have exactly the same as you op. Gave my kids the worst dad imaginable but the most one-of-a-kind, incredible stepdad who has enhanced their life in every way. He has raised them as his own (he has his own too), and mine have never ever said “you can’t tell us what to do cause you aren’t our dad”- ‘cause he is.

Lovely post. I really hate the rhetoric on MN that blended families are awful and all kids involved are doomed to be emotionally traumatised for life. It’s not the reality at all. Sure it comes with complications but stories like this prove it does work. I had a wonderful stepfather who was more of a dad to he than my own dad ever was. Sadly he’s no longer with us but he shaped the person I am today and I’ll miss him forever.

Well done on having a lovely child and dh OP.

Lovely post.
A Dad is he who does 'Dadly things...usually out of love.

This is so nice. I often see the stat that the worse things statistically you can do for your child is to move a step father into the home and that scares me off dating, but when I read this - it’s good inspiration! How did you meet your lovely husband

Saying this though, how blended is this family are there other kids involved? I think it’s the families that had two kids each and then have another baby between them and then force all the kids to share rooms and move areas etc are the ones who are criticized most

Sounds really chaotic

Well yes obviously the more people involved in a blended family the more complex the dynamics become I suppose. But I still feel like women who dare to date again after splitting with their child’s father are heavily judged here. And stepparents are always given a tough time too.

Families come in all shapes and sizes.