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Neight15 · 03/10/2025 05:43

Been with my wife for 8 years and just found out she is letting her daughter that’s 13 years old use marijuana. Mind you that I’ve been in this child’s life since she was 5 years old. What’s worse is that I found out that my wife’s son who is 18 is the one getting it for her. She also let him use at that age. 90% of our arguments are because my wife is not strict enough with her kids. I just don’t know how to handle it anymore. I’m conflicted at all angles and would appreciate some advice.

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Linenpickle · 03/10/2025 06:19

That’s tough. Have you told your wife she’s being very irresponsible and stupid, potentially putting both her kids into a life of drugs and crime?

lunar1 · 03/10/2025 06:26

That would cross a line for me, she would be my ex

muddyford · 03/10/2025 06:30

That would be the end of that relationship for me. It will only get worse. Poor you.

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Neight15 · 03/10/2025 07:12

I have told her many times which is the main reason why we get into arguments. At first it was us talking, now it’s to the point of me not saying anything just holding it in and I get mad, then it’s just a yelling match. Its not just the marijuana its multiple issues with the kids and how she doesn’t regulate. I love her she’s a good person but there’s no parenting in this house and she was raised right by her parents so not sure what’s going on. It would be extremely hard for me to let go of her

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Thisisforty · 03/10/2025 18:13

I feel for you, it’s very difficult when you have to witness such poor parenting and can do nothing about it.
Does your stepdaughters dad know what’s going on?

For your own sanity you will either need to leave her or step back and not get involved. But make it clear that you will not tolerate it in your house, because you do have a say over that. If she can’t respect you feeling comfortable in your own home then that’s another issue. In the meantime you should keep a look out for it and throw away any that you find

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Neight15 · 06/11/2025 04:30

Thisisfourty her dad has been out the picture since she was almost four. He’s had opportunities to be in her life, but never made a move. I have tried to step back and not have anything to do with any of it, but I care and was raised different so it’s hard for me to stand on the sidelines especially when my wife is their mother and I’ve been in their life’s for a good amount of their childhood. I can’t just step away and not say anything. And I love this woman. Thank you for your advice.

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MangoBanjoe · 07/11/2025 21:08

She’s not a good person, she’s a shit person and a shit mother. I’d leave.

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