Bedroom dilema and SD

[Sleepingbunny1]

Soooooo, please bear with me as this is a very new situation.

Ive just moved in with new partner, 3 bed house and 3 children between us.

None can share rooms, my DS 15 & DD 12 is SEN so needs her own space and we have now partners DD 13 to consider, at the beginning her mother said there is no way she will ever be allowed to stay with us, but now its all changed and we are due to have her one day in the week and every Fri or Sat nights at the weekend, but we have no spare sleeping spaces, she is also SEN, so i dont really want her using the master bedroom as she is very destructive and dosent really respect things that arent hers, or do we set up a camp bed or sofa bed in the front room for her.

This is all new and tricky to nagivate at the moment and i dont wish to upset anyone in these sleeping arrangements.

Why do people on here say 'my child is SEN'.

Either absolutely awful sentence construction or you feel your child IS SEN and is totally and utterly defined by it.

Grinds my gears.

Why don't you put your daughter or son on the camp bed in the living room and give your SD a bedroom? Do you think that a camp bed in the living room is a completely unacceptable sleeping arrangement for some SEN 13 year olds and not others?

Your house isn’t big enough. Your husband needs to apologise and say to mum SD can’t stay overnight yet, then you find a bigger place. Any father who buys a home that doesn’t accommodate his child, regardless of what has been agreed with the mother, isn’t really too bothered about seeing his child.

You go and stay elsewhere when she stays as you should have rented a big enough property.

You’re going to get flamed op. This is Mumsnet

Based on previous posts where your partners daughter sleeps is the least of your worries! Unless your house is sold, suggest you move back into it. How well is your new partner going to cope with your children? Your son sounds like he can be a pita at times.

all seems very rushed.

Marry in haste, repent in leisure or shack up with a new guy in haste in your situation.

Are you actually mad? You demand your kids have their own room for sen reasons but partner kid is to “make do”
Jesus f Christ. I’ve seen it all

You could put D13 in the smallest room and have a secure locked cupboard in that room for you and your DP.
Then have a sofa bed for you adults in the living room.

They rent. RTFT.

Ok well change the word ‘purchasing’ to the word ‘renting’ and the whole point still stands.

This is the best solution. It’s obviously fine for an SEN to have no bedroom as stated in your OP so put one of your children in the living room on a camp bed. The other one can have a room: of their own, I can’t see that causing any resentment at all so no problem there and your boyfriend’s daughter gets the other room.

Job done.

And you would think that would be a good solution, but the OP doesn’t want to do that.