Would really really value advice from others who’ve been in a similar situation. A senior colleague is retiring next summer and I’m being strongly encouraged to apply for their role, so that I can shadow them for a few months beforehand and they can recruit in my place. It’s my dream job and there’s a significant pay increase. It’s likely that if I put my name forward, I’ll get it. It will, however require a move to be nearer our offices - a city around an hours train journey from where we are now. We are in a position to be able to sell our current home and buy one in new location. DH happy to move, and up until now, my DC and SC have all been open to the idea- quite excited by it because there’s lots more going on in new city, things to do when they visit, or for the 3 still at home, more job opportunities for them , etc. DSD(17) who is the youngest, has just said she doesn’t want to go. She wants to stay on at her current FE college when her course finishes and do another year ( foundation year) there, before going to uni. She doesn’t have a particularly close friendship group, and she only sees her mum every 6 weeks or so for the day, we think the main challenge for her is the idea of change.
We can delay the move til next summer but not by another year. This kind of job opportunity isn’t likely to come up again any time soon.
Friends who aren’t step parents are telling me we should just go ahead with the move. My friends in particular know I’ve turned down lots of opportunities to stay in the area my SC grew up in ( it’s not where I’m from, I have no ties here) and are really supportive. But I just feel really guilty for putting my DSD through a change that she might find difficult. We have a good relationship but it’s taken a lot of work to build trust. What should I do?