Hi everyone, so a bit of a rant! I have been with my partner for 8 years, he has children from a previous relationship that he has full time. They are suspected to be on the spectrum and whilst reasonably independent with some things they can be challenging. My issue is that he is doing absolutely nothing to help them along, just leaves them in their rooms on their devices, which in my opinion is making things much worse for them. His son often spends 16 hours a day watching YouTube and playing games on his phone. They need to be told to carry out basic self care, like brushing their teeth or washing, and DP doesn’t notice or take responsibility for this, most of the time so it is left for me to sort out. When we do go out they just don’t know how to behave, and any correction from me is met by excuses from their dad. We recently went to a restaurant with family and his son was trying to eat rice with a knife, I gently told him to use a fork (he ignored me as usual) and his dad just deflected saying he ‘likes to eat like that’ (whatever that means!) instead of telling him to use a fork (which he knows how to use). They are all teenagers and I am at the end of my tether with it all, i don’t see things getting any better ,not because they don’t have the capacity to, but because their father is always defending their poor behaviours and deflecting any suggestions from others. We recently had a massive argument because I told him that we need to do better in supporting them with their social skills and behaviour, spend quality time and reduce the screens, because as they are now getting older the way that they behave is causing issues for them when interacting with others (they recently had a family member kick off at them for being rude/ not listening). A lot of their family don’t seem to want to spend time with them because of the way that they act and it will be a real problem in the future, but my partner doesn’t seem to see that. I am considering leaving but don’t want to make things worse for them, but equally I can’t continue like this- I am really torn!