It’s a bedroom one (sort of)

[gymning]

Hey - trying to get the consensus as to whether IABU or not.

for full context; we have a 4 bedroom house. Bed 1: me and DH, bed 2: DSD (17), bed 3, DH office, bed 4 DD (5)

Beds 1,2,3 are all large doubles. I also wfh but on the dining table, don’t have my own office space, whereas DH claimed the spare room as his office.

No space downstairs so not an option.

My question; I recently bought myself a piece of gym equipment. It’s big but not at all bulky (if that makes sense) and can fold down and so semi go away. I bought it with the idea of putting it in DH office (as I don’t have my own!) but think it’d be easier to fit in using it more if it weren’t in there (he’s up there 830-6 most days on and off calls etc).

DSD stays averagely about 1 night every 3 weeks or so since she became more independent as she’s busy with friends / boyfriend at weekends mostly, and mum lives walking distance to college (we’re about 15 mins away semi rural - just to explain why she stays infrequently these days!)

Would I be unreasonable to set up DSD as a mini home gym of sorts, with equipment folded and pushed out of the way the odd day she does stay? It means in the week I could fit my exercise in around my day instead of trying to fit in around DH

I think that’s ok. But why has DH got a double bedroom for his office and you’re on the dining table? It would make more sense to give DSD the double with a desk in the corner for you to work from and move DH into the small bedroom, or visa versa.

I would move DHs office into bed 4 and move the 5 year old child into the double room.

I'd probably set up the gym equipment in the garage. I wouldn't want to impose on DSD space. It's her room. She won't want it smelling of sweat.

@MrsMontyD DSD room would fit a desk - not a bad idea actually though to move his desk in there and then I have the office as an office / gym

@BlueRin5eBrigade our garage is single skin and detached so don’t think it’s be any good in winter

I wouldn’t let your OH have a double as an office. Why can’t he have the small room and your youngest have the bigger room? Or why can’t your youngest have the bigger room and either you or your OH have a desk in there?

and then the small room is an office cum gym.

That's a shame. What about an insulated garden room. I think you can get a decent one for 10k. Where I live people rent them.out as air B&B . You can get them plumbed and everything.

To answer Qs about the 5 year old it’s a 3 storey - so middle floor: main bedroom, family bathroom, smaller bedroom, top floor is 2 bigger bedrooms. We wanted DD on the same floor as us whilst she was small; but will move the rooms around in a few years to give her a bigger one

Why can’t your bedroom and the 5 year old’s be on the top floor?

@Tippertapperfeet no toilet

Can’t you go down a floor to go to the loo? She’s 5 not 2?

@Tippertapperfeet in theory, but she frequently wakes in the night for a wee and I’d prefer her to be closer to the toilet for now. Her room is fine for her just not as big as the others

I would put a desk in DSD’s room as well as the gym equipment if she is there so little time now.
Talk to her first though and explain the reasoning too, most 17 year olds would use the gym equipment too so might be a win win all round.
My DSD knows when she goes to Uni we are going to reconfigure her room so it can be used when she’s away but it’s still her space with all her stuff when she’s here.

Fair enough. :)

One person using a piece of gym equipment won’t make the room smell of sweat!!!!
I have a gym and it doesn’t smell of anything

OP ask her. She’s there 1 night in 21. She will soon not need a room other than a place to sleep once in a blue moon if it’s already 1/21 nights and could have the small room

I don't really get why 3 doubles are being used by adults, 2 of them now it sounds like not as bedrooms, but the youngest gets a single?

@CornflowerDusk as mentioned above, the rooms are on different floors and whilst DD was little the smallest room was her nursery and also closest to us. Will be moving her to one of the bigger rooms in a year or two

Don't put up with the office thing. As Ella Risbridger says - "I have long noticed that in a house with one spare room and a heterosexual couple who both work from home, the spare room is where he works – with a door that shuts and perhaps even a designated desk – and she works somewhere else. Always for good reasons, but always." Not totally true but too true -- research shows that ve 60% of men have a specific room for work at home and only 40% of women.
Can tell from your language you're not happy about it. Why do you have to wfh from a sodding dining table? Why can't you take turns with the office space?

Could you ask your dsd if it would be okay? Sounds like the room is really not getting much use, chances are she'd be fine with it if you get along alright? And no, you won't make it smell of sweat. 🙄

Why can't you share the office room with DH and both work from there?

It would be plenty big enough.

The issue asked about doesn't seem to be the office space (although it does read as if you aren't overly happy with that - and a rejig of DSD to include a desk, which I'd expect in a 17yos toom anyway, might help with that. Or a rejig of the office to make it suitable for 2 people working at the same time), but the gym equipment.

How easy is the gym equipment to move? Could it be used in DSD room but easily moved out into the office when she does stay?

Is there any other space, landing space, downstairs space, bathroom where the gym equipment could go.

Can you not use the gym equipment at the same time as your H is working? (Although I wont do pilates if anyone else is around, so appreciate you might not want to and it might not be appropriate do do so with his work).