Induced/sweep this weekend. Valid reason to swap weekends?

[Helpingorhindering]

I was told by the hospital last night that they would like to induce me pretty much imminently. I have opted for 2 sweeps before we try an induction. This will means my last sweep will be on Saturday, and if nothing my induction Saturday or Sunday.

My DSD is due to stay with us this weekend, however on this occasion think it would be best we swap days as we cannot predict what is going to happen at the moment. Also I’m terrified about giving birth and would like to feel focused and comfortable to roam the house in whatever state I may be in.

is this fair?

Yes, but you’ve left it quite late, so it might be too late too swap! And presumably your partner has been accommodating the other way round historically.

Yes of course you’d want to swap, but is it a possibility that DGPs can help?
Your partner/DH could always ask DSD’s Mum and then try GPs?
It sounds like DSD will want to be there next weekend to meet little one anyway and not for the messy/hard part!

Completely fair to ask but also understandable if mum already has unchangeable plans.

What would dh’s plans be normally if he required childcare apart from you or their mum.

@arethereanyleftatall I’m actually due next week so unfortunately it’s not been something we can plan around as we were conscious he could come early, on time or late. Either way any of those may dates could have affected the weekend we have DSD and also did not want to suggest that we could not have DSD for 3 weeks that would have massively unfair on all involved.
Yes DP has always been accommodating where need be
DGP will also be asked but just wanted to confirm it wasn’t an unfair ask

@macaronisaidshetlandpony
thank you, just wanted to check how it would be perceived from others POV. DGPs still work and often work weekends so we are going to explore all options
my DP has suggested the weekends stay the same though, that’s my biggest concern

It’s more than reasonable to swap in these circumstances.

I hope all goes well with the birth.

I would just check with the ex or gp that they are free if you go into labour. As the sweep may not start labour and inductions can be slow.
I went in Tuesday first thing and didn't have my baby till the Friday. Literally sat in hospital board for 3 days with not even a twinge, so my husband didn't stay all that time just visited each day until things started to move (as had DC1 at home). And next weekend you will wish you had SDC over this weekend instead of next

Gosh I would think this is definitely a reason to swap weekends. For those saying it's last minute- of course it is!! She only just found out. Honestly people here are unbelievable sometimes! Like your baby is being unreasonable being born this weekend. You can't plan a birth . Surely the child's mother will understand even if she has plans. Utterly ridiculous people here.

Your partner needs to be dealing with this

As always this is a “D” problem more than anything else.

So what is your dp suggesting you do with dsd while you are being induced/in labour?
Of course it’s not unreasonable to ask. Is this your first child or have you other children to seek childcare for? What age is dsd?

The idea was that DSD goes to DGP. DGP are unable to accommodate due to work commitments, however he seems to be a bit miffed. I have openly said I don’t think it’s the best idea to stick to
this weekend as I need DPs support emotionally and physically. Understand it can take a while for the process to get moving but could happen today if they have space to induce me.
This is first child, also going completely in a different direction to how I thought this would all pan out.

@pushthebuttonnn you'd think I’d said I have a planned elective c-section that I knew the date of for the last 8 weeks haha.
To be honest the last thing over the last few days is had my mind on was what weekend it was or was not, I’ve been trying to come to terms with being induced. Which I’m still pretty scared about. (But god forbid my telepathy skills be slacking 😂)

@MakingPlans2025 it is yes, but I’m also conscious of the support I’m going to need

Honestly!! Talk about being inconsiderate 🤣 Best wishes to you, I hope all goes smoothly for you. You shouldn't be worrying about these things right now , it's s not good for you! ❤️

How has she "left it late", it's hardly in her control?

What days are DC there? I would have thought a child free weekend would be better the following weekend e.g. when baby is here

Sorry just an update baby has been born, I ended up being in hospital that weekend for a week due to complications. So had to swap weekends as had no other choice
DGP were working

Congratulations OP! I'm glad you have your baby here safely 💕 Hope you are well too x