Step journey about to come to an end…

[Morewickedthanever]

So, I’m leaving DH (although the D needn’t be there). A woman can only take so much narcissism.

I am really sad to be losing DSC, I’ve been in their life since they were born. They’re a great sibling to my DC too.

Anyone else been in this situation?

Will you be able to keep in contact with DSC?

I’m not sure…not through DH, he’s made that clear many a time which is part of this reason I’ve limped on with him for so long.

I’m hoping DSC mum will keep in touch, we get on okay and we obviously have siblings which she is very supportive about.

Bump

Are they your DC’s half sibling

@Profpudding
yes

Hopefully you can keep in touch through their Mum

Reach out to DSC's Mum, I'm sure she'll be a great support, she's been there! Sod your ex.

Yes, what @TheSilentSister said. I broke up with DD’s dad and DD now has a completely separate relationship with her older half sister, facilitated by myself and DSD’s mum. Don’t rely on him to do it.

I agree with this however I suppose it depends on the circumstances. You say you've been in their lives since they were born. Did DH leave his ex for you when she was pregnant? Or some kind of affair? If so then I'm not sure how well reaching out would be recieved.

Yes, but I wasn’t aware…I was spun a tale and a half.

Ex has been amazing, and very forgiving towards me.

Also, DSC is classed as a child of the family so I can petition to see them legally

It sounds like she may be receptive then to your kids keeping in touch.

Can I ask (and don't feel you need to answer, it's just that I was in a similar situation) did you stay and forgive him once you found out that he had secretly made you the other woman?

No, I’ve only just found out after years of being told I was mad and insecure for suspecting

I’d foster a good relationship with their mum - after all she also had first hand experience of his behaviour/character and likely something you could bond over

Jesus what a bastard he is.