Hi, so I’ve been married 7 years and my stepson who is nearly 11 won’t come all of an sudden unless he sleeps with my nearly 14 year old son. Both have their own rooms and both get on to a degree. Here’s the issue, my husband thinks we should just make my son do it which my son doesn’t want to. The stepson wakes in the night and wakes up at 5am my son gets tired and irritated with this and said he doesn’t mind him being there sometimes but not everytime. Which I respect. My step son arranged to come this weekend and sleep in his own room which is as nice as my sons and then cancelled last minute because he wants to go to his nans. My husband obviously wants to see him but he won’t sleep unless we give in which is disrespectful to my son whose here full time and is of an age where he doesn’t want to share all the time. I’ve suggested maybe making him sleep in his own room next time and if he doesn’t wake us up in the night (6/7 times) moaning he’s hungry or bored (which he does) then we will reward it the following time. He thinks I’m just saying he shouldn’t come. Now when he does come I am the one that’s up with him in the night. My children sleep through and I think my husband needs to show him that he is at our home and needs to respect our rules. Unfortunately he disagrees and says we should do what he asks so he sees him. When he’s here he sits on his phone and they barely communicate. He just wants to play video games with my son. And my husband is very much the same sits on his phone! Now my argument is that he’s letting him call the shots I understand he wants to see him but he won’t help when he is here and he is hard work I love him but he is rude disrespectful wipes boogers on walls. He constantly demands more and more food! He has 3 meals a day and straight after he’s demanding more he gets aggressive he kicks he screams until he’s told yes and then it’s like nothing happened ( I’ve tried asking them to take him to the doctor as I do think he has underlying medical needs) my husband doesn’t react. I’m the one with him all the time. Am I correct in thinking he should stick to a routine and my husband should be encouraging it. Or any other advice would be helpful.