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Advice needed. Some of my SC want close relationship, sports days, holidays together, etc, but 1 of my adult SCs has always been fiercely exclusive of me and her dad since having children; she’s v clear-that’s her family and her and her partner don’t like to join us in family events - I respect that. But, she feels upset when we ‘leave her family out’ because we just do stuff we like but others join in, we don’t tailor events exactly to her specific requirements (vegan, gentle parenting, non competitive sports) and v active. Her mom bows to her every wish/ command and consequently were selfish and horrible

advice on to handle this unfair expectant behaviour?

Just ignore her and keep the invite open. She's the one choosing not to join in.

Hum.

some of this is easier handled than others. Providing vegan food for example should be relatively simple.

maybe do some events that are just for her and her partner and kids, some that are open invite everyone (but easy to make vegan etc if they want to come) and some that are just the others?

Does that mean you're gong to places with no vegan options like a steakhouse or having a bbq with no separate grill and food they can eat or that you ate a cheese roll in front of her once?

Always issue an invitation. If she chooses not to attend, that's her choice. Try to make sure some of the events are suited to her needs (vegan options at restaurants for example).