Adopting step child

[EasterIslandForWinter]

Hi all.
Quick question.
Has anyone been in a situation where they adopted their stepchild at the child's behest, especially in cases where the child is no-contact with their biological mother?
Has anyone followed through with an adoption when it was teenage stepchild's choice, knowing biological mother would absolutely NOT want it, though she would not have any jurisdiction to contest or prevent said adoption?
Biological mother is alive and not incarcerated, if that matters.
Sorry if I've not worded it correctly, I'm typing on my phone.
If this isn't the best place, please move it.

How old is the stepchild?
I didn't think you could adopt without consent of the birth parent.
Why does the child want to be adopted?

Birth mother definitely would have parental responsibility and their views would be fully explored as part of the process .
Step parent adoptions can and do happen but there is a lengthy process of assessment and view gathering as well as several court hearings. It also might not be the most appropriate order to make the court will consider others too.

Cannot see a court allowing that given the context of birth parent not relinquishing their parental rights. Also, do you want to adopt this child? That will be asked repeatedly too and analysed for what the motive is.

This child's mother absolutely has jurisdiction (your term not the correct one though) and d will have a say unless a crt has already removed all parental responsibilities. I don't know where you've got your information on this from but you need to get it from a reputable site or a lawyer before you even consider this

Link to uk government website and screenshot of the basics @EasterIslandForWinter

https://www.google.co.uk/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&opi=89978449&url=www.gov.uk/child-adoption%23:~:text%3DWho%2520can%2520adopt%2520a%2520child,partner%2520of%2520the%2520child%27s%2520parent&ved=2ahUKEwiqnPOp17OMAxXUUkEAHaydJ1cQzsoNegQIAhAP&usg=AOvVaw2QFAWqWaslcSOb8MlzylGv

Hi thanks all. He's 15. No his birth mother would not need to be consulted.
Thank you for the link, however it does not apply to my case here. In my country the process is different.
I was just wondering if anyone has followed through with an adoption where everyone knows the birth mother would not want it to happen, though she would not have any recourse to stop it, and where it was the child's preference.
As to whether I want to adopt him, yes of course.

Someone asked why does he want to be adopted, he has told me and his dad repeatedly that he wants to have no ties to his birth mother anymore. None whatsoever.
I think alot of it is anger still. He's been asking to be adopted for a few years and now that he's getting older I think he is really pushing the issue because he doesn't want to become a legal adult without being legally adopted. He doesn't want to reach adulthood while still "being" his birth mother's "child."

Legally, we are in a position to apply to court but I was just looking for anyone who has gone through this and can tell me how it ended up for the child in question.
I do not mind adopting him at all. I would LOVE to adopt him. I just don't want him to regret it. Don't know if that makes sense.

He's been in therapy for a long time because of the abuse and neglect he suffered from his birth mother but he still has a long way to go emotionally where she is concerned, however, like I said, I think he just doesn't want to reach the age of majority and her still have that tie to him. If that makes sense.

If you do end up adopting him, remind him that his mother will still always be his birth mother and they will always have that special bond - no matter who is responsible for parenting him.

He might end up forgiving his mother but feel guilty for wanting to be adopted out. It seems logical that he is choosing a mother who can parent him very responsibly - that shows common sense on his behalf.

I think that is interesting you mention that. Being an adult and having some experience out there in the real world I know that, for young people, anger can sometimes feel all-consing.
Hate to sound trite but sometimes time really does heal and help things. I don't wish that he would reach a place of forgiveness and acceptance for anyone's sake except his, however.
I will say that I would never in my life again tell him that she will always be his mother and they will always have a special bond. Tried it and it went over like a lead balloon. I think if it were possible he would go so far as to alter his DNA so that he didn't even share that with her. He's already changed his last name to mirror my last name.
I think he just wants this done and over with.
I never wanted his relationship with his biological mother to be this way. I never in my life imagined things would turn out like this when he moved here permanently.
I would, before he moved in, stalk these boards, getting myself ready for how tedious step-parenting was going to be. How it would change the dynamic of the house and how I would feel so very out of my depth.
I was right about only one of those things.
I am 100% out of my depth. Never know if I'm doing the correct thing.
I have specialist and professionals telling me everything is moving along swimmingly. My son is happy and safe. I don't have any of the worries or stress tandem-parenting with his biological mother would typically create, issues which the overwhelming majority of step parents on this board face.
I envy the more typical setups alot of people on this board have. My friends all tell me that my situation is a unicorn - that there is no other parent to contend with. But at what cost? My son has been no contact for years with his biological mother. That is so strange to me. That a child laments the very woman who carried him and birthed him.
And it has nothing to do with the work load of an additional child. I guess I am just reeling, still, that he suffered so much because of her and the things she did to him and allowed to happen to him.
He is 100% justified in his feelings towards her. I won't insult him further by telling him they will always have a special bond. I don't reckon anyone would want a bond with a person who treated them the way she treated him.
For his sake I wish he had typical, average parenting setup so that he wouldn't have suffered the way he has.

What country are you in?