Anyone with a rich stepchild??

[Saffa]

Hello
My husband has a 7yr old daughter from previous marriage, and I've lived with them since she was 3. She's with us half the time. We now have another daughter, 18mo. Husband's ex is well-off and is sending my SD to private school. (She gets lots of toys, clothes, holidays abroad etc too). My own child(ren) will not be receiving all these luxuries and I'm worried how this will all play out with possible jealousy and/or snobbery. I'm worried about when my daughter starts school and wonders why she's not at the 'posh school'. 7yr old already quite obsessed with house size, number of bathrooms etc! Anyone been through something similar or have any advice?

I plan to do the whole, there is always someone better off, better looking, taller, shorter, less well off, slimmer, bigger etc, etc etc. to try to show DS that everyone is different and has different things and abilities. (not that his half sis' family is rich or v.v, but just in a general sense of teaching about differences, may work in your case)

hi i'm glad this has been brought up becuse we are in the same situation and sometimes when dh is 'off on one' about poor dss missing out i do have to point out that at the other end of the scale he is getting more than double on everything [holidays, pressies, etc]but it does seem as if i appear bitter which i feel i am but i also have wondered how you explain it to ds its bllody hard all this you know i feel sometimes that withall the extended husbands and wives c**p it makes it even harder!

sorry went off on one

meant i am NOT bitter honest!!!

Honestly, I have to admit that I HAVE felt bitter at times. More out of fear of seeming 'second best' to my own child, which I know isn't reeeeally going to happen, but I guess I've worried about it none the less.
I feel less isolated knowing that others of you are in similar situations.

Any ideas how the kids feel about these situations, though? I'm guessing there must be some resentment, even if its well dealt with?

I dont have lots of money but I have time & love to give my DCS
My DP has custody of his DD and is in same boat (we dont live together)

BOth our exs have lots of money and every time the DCS go to their other parents, they come home talking about all the new toys & clothes they have.

Good.

Thats their "fun time" parent reality.
We have the real life dealing with children.

Thankfully they dont compare and just accept they get more "things" at absent parent's home, and are happy with what they have in their RL homes.

Thats life isnt it.
No point beating yourself up about it.

Do what is right / what you can afford, and dont worry about their life with the ex. You cant control or alter it can you