Advice on what I can do

[Ab198699]

Hey, I'm going to try and keep this short and sweet.

Need advice

Got back in contact with an ex who previously I brought his kids up for 4 years coz there mums a waste of space (won't go into that)
Me and him split for whatever reason, anyway back then the mum always dragged me into it, over the years she's lied and said I've said stuff to her, which I didn't and she didn't know me and him were still in contact kind of ( when it come to the kids we were) so this has been going on and off 8 years, she even spread it around one the reason we split was coz he rape me. HE DIDNT, but just proving she has no limits

Anyway this time round she's claiming social services have told her, her kids ain't allowed anywhere near me and if they do she has to call the police (also need to just add she ls recently been told she's losing the kids to go back to their dad and waiting for court date, so in my head and heart I know it's all crap)

But my question is can I contact social services and if there is any truth to it there reasons why solely about me???

I don't wanna know anything about her, the kids or what's happening but my thinking is, if they have any concerns about ME being around kids (hers or anyone's) surely I have the right to know.

Bear in mind I think it's all bollocks coz I have my own kids and if that was the case surely I'd have them at my door about my own.

If SS had any concerns about you they would speak to you. But you also need to consider if this is worth the drama.

In all honesty no it isn't worth the drama, however I'm sick and tired of this woman dragging my name all over things, I have my own children and her claims and lies could and have affected them.

I've done nothing for so many years and let it go and let the shit be said, and she always comes out smelling of roses. Now I feel someone needs to not just ignore it and show her for what she really is.

The woman she is....

Quick run down

She's given birth to 10 kids, 1s in care, she's never worked a day in her life, she gets over 3 grand in benefit a month and still uses food banks, she orders drugs from her kids phone, she hates me and I'm so bad however last year 1 kids was staying at mine with the dad she kicked off, the dad had to go back to his mums coz she was ill. The mother asked of the kid could continue to stay with me coz I could driver her to school. As I said she's in the process of losing the6 kids she currently has with her, 2 are going back to my ex other 4 will end up in care, yet she asked him to take on her other 4 kids after over the years has claimed he's sexual abused his own kids. She even slept with her 20 year old daughters bf .

She is the woman you only read about in magazines in the doctors. She'll lose all them kids and I could bet my house by Xmas 2026 she'd of popped another out.

Why would you bring this back into your life?

Her opinion of you is irrelevant. You can control how she behaves and what she says so there's no point trying. People who know you will know the truth and everyone else is irrelevant. Ask whoever is passing these stories onto you to stop because you don't want to know and let her crack on with whatever makes her feel better.