DSS and his effing phone

[loopsaloo]

DSS is 23 and lives with us full time, work from home 4 days a week.
I am sick to death of hearing his phone bellowing from his bedroom when he's not working. It's not music, but fucking loud, annoying, American voices and cartoons.
DH hears it but says nothing.
I think he's probably always done it, when he was living with DH - I am a person who absolutely hates confrontation etc so I'm just silently seething most of the time. He also cannot put it down, ever. It's constantly in his face, even if he's carrying food, carrying a hot drink, etc.
it's driving me potty!!!!

You don’t need to be confrontational just. A simple request should do it.

“Could you turn your phone down a notch - we can hear it over the TV”?

I don’t see this as any different as him watching TV in his room.

If he’s watching it downstairs and it’s disturbing you/ you can’t hear the Tv then I would ask him if he can turn it down a bit.

If you’re not good at confrontation then I’d speak to DH about asking him to turn it down or having a signal that you can use if it’s too loud for you.
Or I would joke with DSS about it.

I think you are being a little OTT.
As long as it’s not disturbing you more than say what a TV or stereo would, then I don’t see the problem.

Or, at 23, he could buy his own?!

An example of my messages to ds 16..
Shh.
Stfu.
Shut up or you're going under the patio..
Ime turning the WiFi off helps. Unless he pays the bill. He emwds to be told to start actingkle a considerate adult.. Teen behaviour is unacceptable..

I'm so pleased to finally find another person on Mumsnet who acts like this😂 I'm sure you'll be told you're abusive

Abuse is being denied the right to sleep imo.

I met ds's gf last week. She was very quiet. I said I know you ain't quiet pet as I hear you loudly on face time every bloody night..
Tbf the calls have now quietened down now!!

Garden room?

Is your DH hard of hearing or just hard of manners? If he refuses to speak to his son then you really need to.

Text him!!

Are you trolling?

He needs to wear headphones. He wouldn't be popular living in a shared house and dominating the atmosphere with his noise. Its very selfish. Hopefully one day he will go back to an office where he will be forced to amend his behaviour out of duty and respect to others.

Absolutely headphones!

This is a completely reasonable ask.

Although it's ironic how much thought you're giving to this when if it were anyone else you'd just politely ask/tell them to do this.

Most women are so so sensitive about having reasonable expectations of stepchildren and it's not hard to understand why when we are battling against an age of wicked stepmothers in fairytales!

OP, you aren't doing anything wrong here. 🌺

Seriously OP, headphones.

"Your phone is really loud DSS, can you turn it down please"

It's not confrontational or impolite.

But no, posters would rather you get divorced and sell your house.

😂😂😂😂

He's 23! Not 13! Just tell him to pipe down or move out!

Just tell him.
its not confrontational, it’s perfectly reasonable.
turn it down, get headphones, you’re disturbing my work/life whatever.

if he refuses, then he arranges to live elsewhere.