Adopting when DSC live at home 50/50

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Has anyone got experience of adopting when a DSC in the family lives with their other parent 50% of the time? Not sure how much impact it would have that the new child is adopted vs being born to SM and DF.

They have a sibling at their DM's house. But we are worried how they will cope with another child living full time with their other parent and they're the only child moving between houses.

Worried about DSC being jealous of a new child being home with us 100% of the time. They could be 10 or so by the time another child gets home, so a big age gap.

I know people have kids in blended families all the time, but feel like adopting might feel different?

I'd actually be more concerned about the impact it would have upon the adopted child.

Thank you, I'm also considering this point.

I'm looking for advice more about DSD on this topic specifically, but if you have thoughts on the adopted child they would be welcome too.

I don't have any fertility issues so can potentially have my own children but DH and I would prefer to explore adoption fully before thinking about TTC.

Hmmm.

I actually think a bond would be 'better' formed (not keen on the word better, maybe deeper?) if there was a genetic link ? Having that can really make kids especially feel bonded when I think of all the siblings and half or step siblings I have worked with over the years.

Although it totally depends on how you approach the situation and wording you use. I suppose you'd never want sdc to ever say 'well you're not even related' but I think good parenting would prevent that anyway.

How come?

Do you think the adopted child will be greater impacted and how so?

Do you not think the impact on the SKs shouldn’t be considered?

OP - I’m sure social services will help as surely this isn’t uncommon (thinking of kinship adoption too).

Depending on age of adopted child it might be easier - the child might be less delicate than a newborn, so they can interact and play from day 1?

Plus no post partum hormones etc which I think can affect the applecart.

I'm not saying no concerns/plainsailing, but it may be a bit easier?