Days out with ex

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fireworks345 · 05/11/2024 19:59

My DP of a year has 8yo son. The child wants his parents to meet for a day's out with him, for them both to take him out for mini golf, exhibitions, events as they used to do when they were together.
Is it ok?

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Davegrohlsbabymama · 07/11/2024 18:06

takeittakeit · 07/11/2024 00:19

To be honest the OW had been so bad before his current partner, I was worried.

However, it just happened naturally, we were going for Italian and youngest DC said - oh G loves Italian she would love this restaurant and it is her birthday next week. So effectively it became her birthday meal with the DCS.
She is such an easy person to have as an SM and we had met many times before.
She does not come that often as it would defeat the object of the meals but every so often is fine. I am not in competition with her and we do actually like each other.
We were together ofr 18 yrs before the split, most of that was good times, that did not change. We are friends now and care deeply about each other but do i love him - absolutely not, the trust was irrevocably broken and too much crap happened. My DP will come as well when she does and we all get on as friends. It ahs taken time to get here but it is so much less stressful than when he was with the OW - I would hate to lose what we have and most importantly the DCs like it.
Someone in our scenario had to be the bigger person and swallow a lt of hurt - that was me, ut seeing my DCS happy has been worth it eventually

I think this is lovely and would love to have this with my DP, his ex and her DP that she has a new baby with.

FestiveFruitloop · 02/12/2024 12:55

Could be worse, OP. When I first got together with DH his ex expected me and him to spend most of our free time with her, her new DH, DSD and her new DD. I'm not even kidding.

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