Me and my partner have been together for 7 years, he has a son who I have brought up since he was 3 alongside him and his ex. My stepson has just turned 11 and has started high school which is bringing new challenges and behaviour to work through. On Friday we were going out for food, I asked my step son to put his coat on to which he responded i don’t need it. I replied you do, put the coat on mate. He then threw the coat on the floor, sat back in the car and refused to get out. My partner then gave me a look and walked off. The next day we went to visit family we had a lovely evening and upon leaving my stepson was on his phone. I said put your phone down and say bye to everyone nicely, he pulled a dirty look and continued on his phone. I said to my partner I’ve asked him to say bye, do you know why he’s in a mood? My step son then walked off in a mood once again. My partner then said I was in a mood and said he wasn’t going to referee the 2 of us. I said how I feel which is I am an adult not a child. I now feel I will get the blame when my stepson is moody or misbehaves. I have also explained to my partner that I can take a step back and not be involved in the parenting at all but I know this will cause distance and I will retreat from being myself. I have asked my partner to tell me exactly what I have done wrong but he just wants an easy life? Any help?