I have one DSD 18, I buy for all the kids step & bio every year, always have done. My DSD has presents and money every year depending on what she’s asked for etc. The issue I have is, Xmas & bday are on the horizon and I have noticed for a while now that I have NEVER seen her wear anything that we have bought her (I have also noticed the same with what her grandparents on dads side). This isn’t necessarily a case of us buying things she doesn’t like so she understandably wouldn’t want to wear them. We’ve bought things she has specifically asked for: coats, tracksuits, trainers, crocs, watches, bracelets, necklaces.., you name it! We see her regularly and she wears sliders almost every single day, she came last week in the peeing down rain and was wearing sliders. Not seen her in a pair of trainers in more than a year! She’s not grown so it’s not as though they don’t fit her, same with clothes, she’s always wearing odd socks, same old track pants and brothers t shirts etc.
haven’t brought it up to her as it would be awkward but my question is: AIBU to just give her money/vouchers and not waste my time and effort wrapping gifts that don’t appear to get used?? I have 4 kids in total so it’s not a stress free quick job as I do all this (which I am happy to do by myself, my OH wouldn’t have a clue what to buy anyway!)