Contact with ex

[Lemonmelon1]

I'm just curious how often other main parents have contact from their exes regarding how the child is doing in school etc.
my ex has my children one night every week and every other weekend plus a bit extra during holidays. We do the same arrangement with my sc.
I don't routinely speak to my ex in between visits as I don't see there is much need. Anything interesting that's happened in the few days of not seeing the kids I catch him up on. If there is something really worrying or something really amazing then I drop him a quick text to keep him in the loop but that's about it.
My dh does the same with his ex and now she's making out he doesn't care enough about sc and should he in contact more often.

Just curious what others do?

Similar arrangement with my ex, occasional message if there’s an issue at school or with health etc but no general chit chat other than that.

I don’t check on the kids usually when they’re not at mine (would expect a call if there was an emergency etc) unless something specific is going on.

My eldest is old enough to have their own phone so I contact them directly to check in when they aren’t here.

That's great to know thanks. Seems what I do is pretty normal and what dh is doing.
I think she's throwing the toys out of the pram as she isn't getting her own way over certain things and looking for ways to hurt Dh.
I was worrying she's going to expect him to contact her more often and it could become an issue.

Your dh has no need to text the ex when she has the kids unless she text bout kids being sick or something, same way she dosnt need to text your dh when he has them.

My ex and I are in contact daily ( quick text, never phone calls unless some kind of emergency). It’s very low level contact and not intrusive into our separate lives. Our child was very young when we separated though. If we separated at the age she is now (late primary) it would certainly be different. It will most likely change now when she gets a phone of her own.

She usually sends a text every morning when we have him!

I might talk to my ex once a month if that, and even then that's maybe one or two texts never a phone call and I never talk to him in person 😂. Couldn't give a shit about his personal life he doesn't have my dd overnight and only sees her a couple of hours a month... #wanker

Once a week to confirm drop off/pick up time. DH and I keep up to date with school stuff ourselves.

Took a while to get to this point as the ex used to text about stupid stuff but my DH always ignored her til she eventually got the message and stopped.

Thanks everyone. I think she is just point scoring and trying to get at him because as I said she isn't getting her own way.
I'll reassure him that he's doing the right thing with contact etc.

I don’t know, my kids dad lives overseas and doesn’t see them but DH is in contact with his kids via his ex nearly every day I would say - they have their own phones now so often that means directly now but when younger it was with his ex daily. Either text or a call - always about the kids. If I went a week in between seeing my children, I’d want to be in contact in between. I don’t think what she’s saying is too much of an issue, of course only you know to what extent it is genuine or something else!