I have been with my partner 11 years, his son has lived with us the whole time and his daughter did for a few years. My partner split up with the mother 5 years before I met him but she has always been needy and thinks that she is the love of his life and no one will ever come close to what they had, blah blah.
I have tried on several occasions over the years to have some sort of relationship with her but gave up. She slags me off, especially when she has a drink, which she does a lot. I have put a roof over her head in the past when she has gone from one violent relationship to another. I have message after message saying i'm nothing to her children on grandchildren. I have a very good relationship with my stepson, who is now in his twenties and we are like mother/son.
Her constant bitching and mocking of me put a strain on the relationship with my step daughter, who went off the rails for a bit to so I bore the brunt of that. (we did have a good relationship to start off with) Her mother abandoned her and she moved in with us for 3 years, which was horrific having a 13yr old ball of anger, and she only had me when she wanted her mum. But all she saw from a young age was the mother hating me, so she followed suit.
Our mutual grandchildren have gone into care and I am being assessed to be their carer. She did not qualify. But I am now in the situation where she is only acknowledging that my partner is going to have the grandkids, because i'm nothing to do with her grandchildren and now it's really starting to p*ss me off.
Am I wrong to expect a little acknowledgement or a bit of respect? Not sure what I expect to get from this post, maybe it's just that I needed a rant but seriously.